When I had 20+ employees and pathetic emotional self-management, worry and stress nearly killed me.
EFT Tapping gave me hope that I could manage my feelings.
(Notice I did not say CONTROL my feelings… hahaha.)
And Tapping has made a huge, remarkable difference. Indeed, I’ve had people remark on my emotional skill when, long ago, I really was pathetic. I was triggered by being called “the boss.” I was triggered by cash flow issues. I was triggered by lack of response to a marketing effort… and triggered by too much response to a marketing effort.
Being a business builder, or entrepreneur, put one into an extreme. The nature of co-creating when you’re the lead instigator means all of your energy systems will be drawn upon.
My experience of being an entrepreneur makes it clear that it is Who I Am at heart. But just because being in a role is part of our core essence does not mean we’re born with the skills needed to do it without self-harm!
For example, I love pleasing people! When I have an offering that is pleasing and makes a difference in someone’s life, I feel I’m living my true nature.
Yet, the empathy and compassion and willingness that goes into a “pleasing people” nature can also get… uhhh… tortured…
People Pleasing is beautiful… as long as we grow in emotionally intelligent awareness and skill.
The same gift that allows me to use my empathy sense (however imperfectly) what someone is feeling can, without emotionally intelligent boundaries, mean I start flailing around trying to please someone who isn’t pleasable!
So many of the Real Skills that are required to be an entrepreneur are emotional. Yet, the management books I read in my early 20’s were almost all written by men who viewed leadership as expressing power and influence OVER your team rather than power WITH your team.
And none I can recall really spoke to emotional intelligence.
I’m grateful that we’re starting to have children’s books with a clear intention of cultivating emotional intelligence – not just cognitive intelligence.
For me I’ve been shedding the identity label of “entrepreneur” in favor of Co-Creator, and if you are doing that, too, then we’re Co-Creatives together!
If you look at your past or current co-creative efforts, what’s an emotional skill that would be Really Helpful?