In EFT Tapping the standard ending to the setup phrase is:
“…I deeply and completely accept myself.”
Why do we say that, even when it isn’t completely true?
Carol Look stated the reason succinctly recently. She said we do this to:
Stop fighting ourselves internally.
That’s it. When we consider body image issues and self-dislike and many other pains, struggles, and feelings of anxiety and unease, it is so often the inner conflict – one part of us in resistance and opposition to another part – that keeps us stuck, stalled, and chronically stressed.
What’s potentially even more effective for this? Add the word ANYWAY.
Even though I (name the internal conflict), I deeply and completely accept myself… anyway.
I feel a tiny bit lighter when I acknowledge what I am feeling with this phrase, especiallythe anyway part. It makes it feel real and I sense a little bit of compassion and acceptance for myself in there.
Isn’t that one of those tail enders if we don’t really accept ourselves anyway even if we want to? I could hear “No I don’t right now but I am open to loving myself anyhow.”
Yes, it’s a useful tail-ender to notice. You got clarity that loving self more was more readily available. Nice.
For me there’s been usefulness – especially since Accept Myself is such a potent part of tapping – to go a bit deeper when that tail-ender arises.
What isn’t acceptable here? Reality? Or my behavior being out of integrity? Or that I believe if I “accept” that I can’t change my boundary or my choice?
I used to internalize “accept” as “tolerate” – and I needed to de-couple that.
