How would a Wise, Kind, and Compassionate Being see this situation or past experience?
Sometimes we need to cut through the self-hate and self-criticism. Bringing the perspective of a Being that offers a compassionate viewpoint on the situation can give us the direction for the energy.
What do I mean by that?
Consider the EFT Tapping setup statement. It includes how we’re feeling/thinking… and a direction where we’d like to go with all that energy.
“Even though I feel like a loser, I’m open to the perspective that I was doing the best that I could with no support.”
Our primitive brain can traumatize us, over and over, with harshness. It also tends to believe there is only one way to see a situation. Bringing in the possibility of a wise, or kind, or even slightly more compassionate view can start the healing process when it is stuck.