What doesn’t feel completely SAFE about that?
“Of course I want to _____! I’ve been trying to for YEARS!!”
Right. And if you WANT something that is actually achievable and you’re not taking at least regular microsteps (baby steps) towards it, then…
You probably do not feel safe – not sufficiently safe to move forward.
No, this does not make logical sense. In energy psychology they call this a psychological reversal.
It means what you think, believe, and say you want isn’t congruent from head to toe – at least not enough to take action.
This reality is core to so much self-sabotage, procrastination, and even loss of health and sexual vitality.
“I want a partner!!”
What doesn’t feel completely safe about that?
“Well, last time I had a partner they looked at me with contempt, criticized me all the time, stole money from me, and ran off with someone else leaving me with all the debt.”
The follow-up question is then:
How unsafe do you feel right now when you thing about that?
You think about the ex-partner and check in with your body. How unsafe does it feel, 0-10?
I assure you. I’ve gone through this process with 1000+ people now. It is SURPRISING to recognize how unsafe we might still feel about the past and those unhealed traumas can still impede our future. That’s where EFT Tapping can be a huge relief in getting your energy moving again.
Another aspect is that something in your picture of “success” that would impact your survival.
For example, if the last time you had financial success it lead to a serious (even life threatening) level of stress and illness, until that is addressed (by strengthening you devotion and practices of balance and self-care), it is really amazingly easy for your primitive brain to kick in and stop you.
Stop ANY of us.
These questions can give you deeper clarity, and perhaps also some compassion for why it has not happened for you yet.
I welcome your examples for how this has played in your own life! Click reply