Bath or shower? Hot tub or swim? I tune in. I don’t do the same thing every time. Sometimes I take a luxurious soak. Sometimes it’s rinse, wash, done. And I think communication’s like that, too. There’s a whole range. I can feel into what’s needed. What I’m available for. What we’re ready to share.
I love walking with my partner and letting a conversation meander — exploring what matters, what’s been bubbling under the surface, what wants to be seen or heard.
Not all communication has to be practical or planned. Some of it is soft witnessing, shared noticing, a space where presence itself speaks.
And other times? It’s direct. “Your soup and tea are on the counter. I’m heading out for a walk. I need to go.” Clear. Simple. No story attached. Just what is.
I respect that range. I live in that range. The same way I respect the body’s shifting needs — for immersion, for clarity, for quickness. I notice that. I honor that.
And now with AI, it’s like… wow, we have new ways to respect our bandwidth. Our attention. Our life energy. That sacred fuel of engagement.
I get overwhelmed by long media. I’m audio sensitive, so I can’t just throw on a podcast and let it wash over me until the good part arrives. That’s not how I work.
But I can ask AI for a summary. I can say: “Cut to the chase. What’s really here?” And sometimes, sixth paragraph in — there it is. That gem. That nudge. That yes. My intuition says, “That’s the one.”
It’s a form of discernment. Divine filtering. Instead of pushing through all of it, I find the right depth, the right distance. And that’s a skill. A real skill.
We can live this way — in choice. In responsiveness. “Give me the bullet points” isn’t disrespectful. It’s just tuning into a different rhythm.
And other days? I want to dive in. I want to immerse myself in the thought field. Feel it swirl around. Let it rearrange things inside me. That’s real, too.
I’m gathering years of material — writings, teachings, trainings, insights. Decades of emotional exploration. Millions of words. But I don’t expect anyone to read them all. That wouldn’t be respectful. Not of their time. Not of their energy. Not of their precious life force.
What I want is to offer curated entry points. A way to feel what’s alive and foundational. To say, “Here. Try this. See what meets you.” And if it resonates, you go deeper. If not, you move on. No guilt. No pressure.
That, to me, is profound respect — of autonomy, of intuition, of time and attention. Because these are our non-renewables. You don’t get that hour back. But if you feel nourished by what you found in it? That’s a return on investment that matters.
I dream of a world where we can all engage at the depth that’s right for us — whether we’re skimming, diving, wandering, or witnessing. That we get to say, “Oh! Tell me more about that.” Or “Hmm… not for me right now.” No shame. Just skillful sorting.
As we adapt, as we explore with curiosity, we get better at finding our rhythm. Our thriving way. In a world of infinite info and increasing emotional diversity, this might be our lifeline. Filtering. Feeling. Following resonance.
What a life. What a dance. What a thriving life.
Useful Concepts for Thriving in This Story
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Right Distance Right Depth
Right Distance Right Depth lets us engage on our terms, honoring our capacity without apology. -
Discernment
Discernment helps us feel into what’s for us, and what isn’t — with clarity and kindness. -
Divine Filtering
Divine Filtering tunes our attention to what truly resonates and lets the rest flow past. -
Real Skills
Real Skills help us navigate life from an emotionally grounded place, not just push through it. -
Lifestyle Design
Lifestyle Design invites us to co-create a way of living that matches our inner truth.