Don’t we need to push ourselves out there? Push for more followers, more subscribers. Optimize for acquisition. Numbers, conversions, reach!
I hear this, I really do. And I feel the primal reflex inside me start to stir—the part of me that knows how to battle for territory, forage for food, protect what’s mine. That ancient instinct whispers, You know how to fight. You can survive anything—even crocodiles—to get water from the river.
That part of me? It’s powerful. It’s in me. It’s in you.
But when the structure of our life and business is built around that push, around putting ourselves out there for MORE… what does that do to our body?
For those of us who are sensitive, empathic, caring—it tightens everything. I see it. I feel it. The stress, the energetic constipation of our heartistry. Yes, heartistry. The part of us that creates from what truly matters.
You push and push, and yet somewhere inside, a voice says, “The best of me doesn’t come forth after being shoved.”
Imagine a dancer. A ballerina, with a harsh instructor demanding more and more perfection. Can you see her ribs showing, the discipline etched into every sinew of her body, the cost of the push? That’s not flow. That’s Trauma in Tutus.
And when I notice someone procrastinating, I don’t see it as laziness. My first question is: What matters to you about this work? And when they answer from the heart, when the WHY shines through—that’s when their heartistry starts to move again.
“I want to share this,” they say. And that desire to share, not to push, is everything.
Think of it like cookies. If you love baking and you make 12 dozen, you probably want to share them, right? Not cram them all into your mouth or hoard them in a freezer. Creativity is like that. It feels sweet when it’s shared.
But you know what isn’t sweet? Basing your work on someone else’s judgment. Churning out cookies because someone decided that success means opening a cookie factory. Really? That’s the goal now?
You bake your 12 dozen. You pour yourself into them. And people love them. Great! But then comes the pressure—scale up, push harder, maximize output. But that’s not always congruent with your joy. If the joy was in the process, in touching each cookie with care, then a conveyor belt will only kill the magic.
I believe that when people and businesses operate from the Primitive Brain, it shows. There’s a stress in the energy. A pushing energy. Pushing for customers. Pushing for validation. And in all that push, we stop seeing the people already here, already drawn to what we’ve offered. And they start to feel that absence, and they leave.
And maybe that’s okay… if your only metric is acquisition.
But for those of us whose metric is meaning? And Service?
We have to ask: How do I want to share what matters to me? What if I don’t have to share at all? What if I just want to?
Exploring what helps people thrive—that’s part of my heartistry. That matters to me. And yeah, right now, I’m speaking into a recorder because this energy around pushing ourselves out there? It keeps bubbling up. It pulls at me, too.
I get amazing marketing ideas, believe me. Some feel inspired. Others… well, some of them are just shitty advice. You know the kind: If you’re not reaching a million people with your post, you’re not making an impact. Um, no. That’s not actually true for me.
For me, part of Emotional Freedom is tapping and releasing all that noise. Tap tap tap. Flush. Wipe. Flush again. Because just like our bodies, our energetic field needs a good cleanse, too. There’s a lot of crap advice out there. Some of it gets IN us, under our skin, and twists our minds.
And the most beautiful beings I know? They’re not drawn to crass vulnerability. You know what I mean—forcing raw, tender stories into “massive exposure.” Straining for reach that feels more violating than validating. That kind of sharing is not kindness to self.
Let me share something. If you resonate with Thriving Now, know this: My work is for 11! Not 11 million. Eleven. When I tried to serve 11 million, I was strained and fragmented. But for 11… I can show up. I can hold that space. Fully. Beautifully.
And then, I let the ! at the end of the 11! handle the rest. Eleven factorial. (39,916,800) That’s putting the trust into The Divine Multiplier—Gus, God, Universe, Source. Let them carry forth the energy. I’m not attached to if or how it spreads. I’m not even attached to my name being on it.
And that orientation? That gives me freedom.
So, instead of asking how to push yourself out there, ask this: What wants to be shared? And how does that sharing feel to my system?
Because when you let go of the push, when you shift into a place of willing, resonant sharing… something in you softens. The flow returns. The heart unconstipates. And maybe, just maybe, you start truly Thriving.
Useful Concepts for Thriving in This Story
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Primitive Brain
The Primitive Brain pushes us into survival mode—but thriving begins when we recognize and choose differently. -
Heartistry
Heartistry flows from what deeply matters to us, not from pressure or performance. -
Emotional Freedom
Emotional Freedom lets us feel, release, and re-center—especially when bombarded by toxic advice. -
Congruence
Congruence aligns our actions with our values and emotions, liberating us from performative strain. -
Allowing
Allowing gives our creativity room to breathe, bloom, and be shared in ways that feel nourishing.