It’s absolutely true that if I am shoulding on myself to get it done, I don’t want to do it. I’m not aligned with it. I am having to STEAL my freedom in order to do it.
Pause.
“If I didn’t have to… if there were no should here… does this still matter to me? If not, does avoiding a consequence matter to me and that makes it my choice?”
It’s been super insightful to pause and ask about that. Many times, I will find the “why it matters” and move forward. Sometimes, like paying taxes, avoiding the consequences and keeping life simple is worth it.
I’ve also DROPPED so many “should” activities – freeing up so much energy for engagements that actually matter to me!