(CW: Christian deconstruction. Read at your heart’s discretion .)
Being right and being wrong has been one of the biggest shame attachments in my life. Especially thanks to the Christian church teachings. And if I’ve ever done anything that is “sinful” to the eyes of the church, then I’ll be prone to reproach, shame and correction. Well, sick and tired of that. And now I’m learning to integrate all the “dark sides” that have once been so shut down and repressed in me when I was so trapped in that cycle of religious shame.
As I was tapping, I wondered if I can reframe the concept of “right” or “wrong” or one that is gentler - “New” or “outdated”. (Sure, they may not be an exact substitute but just proposing a concept!)…! The usual “wrong” way of life can be seen instead with an “outdated” way of life. Maybe an inefficient one, but that doesn’t make it bad or shameful. The “right” way of life doesn’t make you superior, you just have a "newer’ way of living, that is more improved and maybe more efficient. Whether “new” or “outdated”, we still live our lives at the way that’s best for us!
(and yes disclaimer again: I know they can’t be absolute substitutes and may have areas where the 2 words aren’t interchangeable in this way)