Pleasing Boundaries… or People Pleasing?
"What is my limit here?"
And… can I express that limit and feel good about myself and the relationship?
That’s a key indicator whether you are People Pleasing or enjoying being supportive, caring, empathetic, loving… and have mutually pleasing relationships.
It’s HARD sometimes! Any parent knows that when you set limits, you get pushback from the freedom-demanding part of this human you’re raising.
And… the inner child in many of us remembers a parent (or both) that were really stretched beyond their limits, who had serious issues, where if we were not “pleasing” to them, it meant… bad stuff.
Trauma-informed self-care is an Awareness… and a skill.
The awareness comes from having questions we can ask ourselves: “What’s my limit here? Is that healthy for me, and we?”
When past trauma makes us resistant to being agreeable and willing, our relationships will not thrive. When past trauma makes us feel we HAVE TO be willing and agreeable, the festering loss of freedom inside can lead to illness and turmoil (even if hidden behind a “pleasing” smile).
Are you sensing for yourself where your limits are? Or maybe even that your limits could use some clarifying? If so…
Join Cathy and I…
It feels so much better when we know the limits to what we’re willing to do to support others… while loving ourselves and our choices, too.
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Rick & Cathy
Your Emotional Freedom Coaches
P.S. Adira says, “It is often pleasing for me to share my blueberries… but I generally like to keep some juicy ones for myself, too! How do you like to share?”
