I agree with letting go of the “always” and “never” — those are seldom accurate words anyway!
My first inclination with that meme is to put in the opposite, and just see how it feels different that way…
“Marriage is easy. Divorce is easy.
Choose your ease.”
I can certainly see how it could be true either way! (Staying married to my ex was hard, but it was also easier than divorce… until it wasn’t — and then getting divorced was much easier! It also varied depending on my own Resource — if I’d had a good night’s sleep, had other support, etc. It’s all relative…)
Really, all of those things could be hard or easy, depending how you look at them, what it takes to do one or the other, whether you have a natural talent for them, what the timing is, what the alternatives are, and whether you have acquired skills, traumas, stories, beliefs, or perspectives that make them harder or easier for you…
In truth, anything can be hard or easy for different people, or at different times in life for the same person, varying with their level of resource and other circumstances.
Life is both hard or easy; that’s part of the beauty of it.
We get to choose our perspective: if we want to look at things as hard or easy — or as just beautiful as they are, in their wholeness, without the judgment of whether they’re hard or easy, since neither is ever wholly true anyway, if we really think about it.
What perspective feels better and is more useful to choose?
Sometimes it’s helpful to acknowledge that things are hard, to inspire us to rise to the challenge and/or to have greater compassion for that experience, and then to learn from it and appreciate our growth.
Other times, choosing to see something as easy (or at least easier than an alternative) is more helpful, because that mindset itself can allow us to accomplish more, or to feel more joy in the process, or to let things flow more smoothly, rather than making things harder than they need to be.
I think my favorite is the perspective that it’s all just energy, constantly changing form, and whether a given circumstance is hard or easy to meet usually depends on our own internal Resource, which is also constantly in flux…
With that perspective, the issue becomes:
“How can I be more resourced within myself, to be able to meet this experience in alignment with who I am and what I want to stand for?”
Getting better at working wisely with our own internal energy feels much more useful than judging if external things are hard or easy!
Removing the labels of hard or easy altogether, we just get to choose what we want and need to feel aligned and to thrive — whatever that means to us at the time.