Kindred Over Crowd

“This isn’t going to make a difference. Why bother?”

That thought shows up sometimes. Maybe you’ve had it too.

When we look at what we do—or even who we are—and it feels like we’re staring at a closed door… it can be suffocating. You can press your nose right up to it, but it’s not reflecting anything back.

It’s not showing you where you’re going. It’s not letting you see your future self… or how your being ripples out into your circle and beyond.

Sometimes the door isn’t locked by trauma alone—
it’s our own perception of what’s on the other side.

People who value freedom often resist the dominant picture of “success.”

They think, “If I walk through that door, I’ll end up in a world of fame or acclaim or hustle I don’t want. I’ll be recognized when I just want peace. I’ll be followed when I want to choose who I walk with.”

I get that.

Having a million followers? Sounds awful.

Some of us instinctively back away from that.
We treat the door like it’s locked—
because the world it leads to doesn’t feel like ours.

But… what if we stopped trying to force the door?
What if, instead, we walked over to a window?

A window lets us see out.

We’re still protected, still sovereign… but we can witness, observe, and choose how much light to let in.

It gives us clarity and a sense of participation in the world—without forcing us to cross thresholds we’re not aligned with.

That’s how I share.

I imagine I’m talking to a cozy circle of eleven.
Eleven feels alive.
It’s intimate.
It’s real.

With eleven, I can be unrushed. I can pause. I can ramble.

When I show up for the eleven, I’m not performing—I’m connecting.

That changes how I express my heartistry.

Here’s a frame I use that helps:

  • Personal Frame: Does this benefit me to express?
  • Sharing Frame: Would I like to share this? With how many? With whom?
  • Kinship Frame: Might there be people I don’t even know yet who resonate with this?

You don’t have to share with millions.

You can share with one person.
Or your spirit circle.
Or the trees.

And yet… when we choose to share where others can find it—on social media, in a private group, or on a site like ours at thrivingnow.center—the window opens a little wider.

It allows the energy to ripple, in small and meaningful ways.

Even AI is picking up on this now.

I see our real skills workshops being consumed more by AI and search engines than by humans.

Weird? Maybe.
Beautiful? Also yes.

There are layers of sharing:

  • The physical: a post, a flower, a podcast episode.
  • The energetic: a vibe, a melody hummed, a bubble blown into the breeze.
  • The technological: a digital seed planted that may sprout years from now in someone’s feed—or in their consciousness.

You don’t have to open every door.
You don’t need to pursue every idea.

You get to frame your life.

You get to ask:

“What’s the exposure I want today?”
“What does ‘good enough’ mean to me?”
“Where is my window… and what do I see through it?”

If what you do feels good, and you’re not intentionally causing harm—that’s a Be+.

That’s thriving energy.

And if you’re blocked,
if the door feels heavy…
maybe don’t push.

Walk to your window instead.
Look out.

See yourself smiling back.
See a few friends giving you a thumbs up.

Maybe even kin walking by—
you don’t know their names,
but they’re happy that you’re blowing bubbles
and dancing to music you’re making up on the spot.

Because every vibration matters.

And you?

You’re adding something real.
You’re co-creating life through your own chosen frames.

And that is enough.


Useful Concepts for Thriving in This Story

  • Circling
    It’s not about being on a stage. Gather in a space where genuine co-creation unfolds for you and your kin.

  • Choices
    Set your own level of exposure. Thrive by selecting what feels right instead of pushing for MORE.

  • Awareness
    Take a moment to see what truly matters. Check in with your body guidance and gain the clarity you need to fuel your thriving.

  • Abundance
    Let go of the chase for numbers. Enjoy rich, meaningful connections, knowing that a small, intentional circle can be far more nourishing for many of us.

  • Acceptance
    Honor where you are right now. Recognize that thriving is about the authenticity and alignment of your expression.

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