The following is a review I’m going to leave on Yelp in a few days.
TLDR: Went to an energy worker who billed himself as a healer, medium and empath. After asking me questions for 40 minutes, he told me the meeting was over and I needed to leave because I was “choosing fear instead of love”. I told him I was dissociating, and he still made me leave. I thought I was making an appointment with an exceptional healer, and instead was left traumatized.
Please bear with me, as this is long. The person I met is not the caring and loving person described by so many others here, and I’m still dysregulated and fighting depression days after meeting him.
I thought I’d made an appointment for a unique and life changing healing session, but it turned out to be an interview for him to see if he wanted to work with me. I did not become aware of this until I was abruptly told after 40 minutes(!) of questioning that the meeting was terminated and I needed to leave.
The first question I was asked was “Do you like being an empath?” Shortly thereafter, he laughingly said “I can feel you trying to read me, but I’m not letting you in.” This “joke” set off alarm bells, as if he was making sure I knew he was the one with the power.
He asked me “If your 4 year old self was sitting here, what would you do?” I said I would talk to her and give her a hug and tell her I loved her. He said I’d be wrong in doing so, because I wasn’t letting her choose. Except I know my 4 year old self and that would have been what she needed and never got. His questions were often confusing, to say the least.
The fatal mistake 40 minutes in was I’d given an answer he said showed I “wasn’t ready” and I was “choosing fear instead of love”. Even when I made it clear I’d misunderstood the question, I was told I’d need to come back another day. I’m not sure how that would work, as the next time I’d be full of anxiety trying to come up with the “right” answer/s since I now understood the consequence was “No treatment for you!” Again, it felt like he was showing me he had all the power. It’s hard to convey how it felt like a switch had flipped and he’d suddenly gone cold and unmovable and how disorienting this was.
This is a terrible way to treat your (quite likely) already traumatized clients who (very likely) have a lifetime of pain and suffering and who (also very likely) desperately want to feel better. NOW.
I believe the question was “Are you ready to have everything change?” and I said no, because I’m an empath and I don’t want to lose that. It wasn’t explained to me in the context of the question that all sorts of things can change with this work, whether I wanted them to or not. I made it clear that in that context I would have said yes, but apparently answers are not allowed to be changed, regardless of new information and understanding.
This is the point when I felt him turn stone cold before my eyes (even though he still had a smile on his face) and I was told the meeting was over and I’d have to leave. I felt his energy change, and it was shocking. The inflexibility, lack of empathy and the suddenness of it all left me stunned. It was mind boggling to be treated like that by someone who calls himself a healer, an empath and a medium. It was like he was engaged with me until he wasn’t, as if he’d suddenly turned into someone else and slammed the door in my face. I felt disoriented.
When I told him I hadn’t understood the question, he just stared at me coldly and said “Then why didn’t you ask?” I looked at him feeling shock and horror and disbelief and that had to be written all over my face, yet he just kept staring at me. I was unable to respond, as at this point I’d started dissociating.
He had kept talking about “choosing love over fear”, which I get, but when you’re working with people who are traumatized, some of them may need to be shown a little love and kindness first so they can let go of fear and trust that YOU, someone they JUST MET, have their back and AREN’T GOING TO HURT THEM MORE, rather than expecting them to be so evolved in their healing work that they can navigate a gauntlet of questions to your exacting specifications. All he showed me was I can never trust him again.
After telling me we were done, he dismissively said, “Well this hasn’t cost you anything but your time, because I’m not charging you.” Except, days later, I’m still depressed and trying to reregulate my nervous system. It has cost me dearly in many ways, and it was never about money to begin with.
I thought I came in for what promised to be a life changing healing session, and left feeling horribly traumatized. Even though I told him I was dissociating, I was still shown the door. I stumbled out in a state of shock and disbelief, and drove home in a fog. What I’d hoped would be one of the best days of my life changed in a second into something truly awful.
It would’ve been helpful to receive an email before the appointment with a list of questions to think about, or a phone conversation, or something, anything, that made it crystal clear I wasn’t making an appointment for energy work and that I might very well never receive a session at all. I understand having a filtering process, but the method of implementation felt cruel and inflexible and left much to be desired. It’s as if he’s trying to see if he can get you to “fail”, rather than helping you “pass”. I felt he’d deliberately tried to trip me up, and just didn’t care if I’d misunderstood something. Sort of like military boot camp, where they try really hard to see if they can get you to wash out.
I’d like to also say I messaged him and said I’d been left traumatized. I waited several days after seeing him to post this, in order to give him a chance to respond, but he never did.
I’m surprised there are no reviews mentioning similar experiences, since I was told by him afterwards that he rejects around 9 out of 10 people who come to see him.