As a parent in this phase, PEACE is the core. And often hard to have.
Peace please, thank you.
I think my grandson, Micah needs the kind of rest that requires peace. We were upstairs, having said hello to Sasha, when he said, āNonna, youāre so lucky to live here alone because you have peace and quiet.ā That statement kind of left me speechless and yet I think/hope he āgetsā the kind of energy I offer to anyone who enters my home. 
How old is Micah Norene? It sounds like he does āget itā and wants more. Itās so sweet that he can come to you and feel that peace and quiet.
I currently feel the deep longing for both rest and peaceā¦in my personal experience they can be interrelated. Some consistent quality sleep would be welcomeā¦and it might just appear if I had some more inner-peace and calm.
As we have discussed before this feels to me more like a āsituationā or a āpredicamentā that needs to be tended or managed rather than a problem that has a solution.
ITāS COMPLICATED!!! 
Micah is 9 years old. I am so grateful that I can offer him some respite from the chaos that is his day to day norm. Summer vacation starts soon and I hope to spend some one on one time with each of the boys.
Yes, it IS complicated! It sounds to be me like your sleep, inner-peace and calm are at odds with each otherā¦as if all three are on the hamster wheel in a race to no where! How might you SIMPLIFY the COMPLICATED?
That is THE question I thinkā¦ for me at this particular time a degree of acceptance of some things would be helpful. I worry over things that have already occured and things that havenāt happenedā¦and that aināt good!!
So, maybe the question becomes what is stopping you from accepting the things that have already or not happened, instead of continuing to worry about them? It seems apparent that worry does not effect the outcome. 
Itās true that worry does not affect the outcome of the things Iām worried aboutā¦but worry does have an outcome unto itselfā¦and thatās the bit thatās problematic of course. So, how do I walk away from worry?..how do I turn my back on worry?..how do I smile and say āno thank youā to worry?..how do I love and accept the part of me that feels that worrying is worthwhile and useful and appropriate and at the same time not hand over authority to that part of me?? I think what I do is communicate with that part of me, learn and acknowledge what itās positive intentions are for me and then find other behaviours that meet those same intentions.
This has been a great excercise for me to run throughā¦thanks Norene!! Itās allowed me to connect with my NLP way of considering thingsā¦specifically what the intention is behind the behaviourā¦then finding other more desireable behaviours (more than one is important!) to meet that same intention.
Yes! And for me I needed to decide what state of being I would find more āmeā ā the embodied those intentions and helped them come to fruition.
You might guess that Calm and Confident was my choice and my practice.
Worry is my default. Calm and Confident is my choice.
āEven though it would be so normal to worry here about this and that and especially THAT, Iāve decided to be absurdly calm and confident.ā
Perhaps that decision activates a bit of my ācultural evolutionā side, that culture is always changing, but often changing because of manipulation by currently-in-power authoritarians and certaintists. Being calm and confident allows me to explore rather than hide, flee, or fightā¦ or freeze.
Inside me, worry ā even though it seems like there is something happening, a cycle of worry ā is a freeze response.
Oh manā¦thanks for all that Rickā¦that really fine tunes it for me.
This statement is worth the price of admission!! The āstate of being that emobdies those intentionsāā¦calm/confident is the golden pathway that leads to the intentionsā¦ a choice to enact and enableā¦a pathway to offer āthe part of me that worriesāā¦an offerā¦an invitation rather than an insistance or a demand to behave differentlyā¦an invitation to walk a different path that has far more likelihood of arriving at the āintention destinationā because ācalm/confidentā has movement and directionā¦and itās very difficult to move toward that destination when in a state of āworry/freezeā, a state that doesnāt want to move. How can I move toward my intention from a state that resists movement?
Iām not sure how it works for you, but worry āfeelsā like movement, and thereās energy there. So I could direct that into tapping with some out loud ooomph.
āEven though I just love being so worried about this (a little ridiculousness), Iāve decided to be ridiculously calm and confident right here, right now.ā
What happens when you try something like that?
I was feeling into your observationā¦
ā¦when I wrote āHow can I move toward my intention from a state that resists movement?ā Seeing worry as an expression of āfreezeā (a resistance to movement) made sense to me experientially. Yes, worry definitely has energy for meā¦but itās a sort of movement that only turns in on itself ā¦like a whirlpool maybeā¦there is movement within a whirlpool ( of worry) but it does not go anywhereā¦it certainly does not travel toward itās intentionā¦it remains in the same location in the stream and does not move with the current. Seeing worry as an expression of āfreezeā was very useful to me.
I really like your āoomphā suggestion and the statement you offeredā¦it feels quite potent in itās acknowledgement of the powerful seduction of worrying (that energy!!..sucked into the whirlpool!!..itās kind of invigorating in a strange wayā¦itās better than feeling nothing!) Iām going to tap on that over the next few days and report backā¦Field Notes From The Whirlpool!!!