My guess? 1-5 billion humans on the planet suffer from this kind of self-suppression. I believe almost all humans are impacted by it. It is exceedingly rare (like 0.001% I’m guessing) to find someone neurodiverse enough that the concept of failure just never crosses their mind.
So what if there was a word that had become stale, had a kind of pressure and coercion to it now, that while in some cases might bring out a higher level of performance, the Leading Lights of Humanity would find it seriously repulsive. 
And what if such a word is G-O-A-L-S?
It has become a repulsive word to me (whether I am a Leading Light or not). I am reading more and more other beings who are being repulsed by setting goals as well.
Of course, people who assert that goals are the way to “make it happen” often say that without a goal we are aimless.
People who have been terrified of goals – because as soon as they even think about setting a goal they know they will F-A-I-L 
– don’t set goals because of that.
I believe that Systems are vastly superior to goals.
Systems have an organized framework. There’s a synergy between the parts. There can be resiliency and even enjoyment in the different aspects.
There’s a system for how water moves on the planet. It’s beautiful and complex and eventually water makes its way into us… for a time… until we piss or sweat or breath it out or use it for chemical processes.
I used to have a goal for things like number of members, revenue, new email subscribers. Egads, so much failure! 
A system says that I offer invitations. That for things I do that are valuable that there are ways (several) for people to pay even though it may not be required for everything. A system says that if there is an offering that might really help someone at a particular point in their journey, point it out with confidence and let the person decide. Be okay with their decision.
Health-wise, a system would say that living creatures move. While my body CAN be still, movement is healthy. A system says there are a myriad of choices for movement – whee! – some being quite subtle and fitting for when energy is soft and precious and others being exuberant and even ecstatic.
Taking your example of moving a home… my system is called Nesting and Stewardship. Our nest wherever it is is called Kind House. Love is an energy that we cultivate – stoke it in fact. We are discerning about who we bring into our nest, and those that do are welcomed generously (and are asked to add to the kindness and generosity as well).
If it comes time to switch to a different structure, we take our energies and tools (furniture, etc) with us to craft the nest and adapt it into a thriving we-space.
As stewards of a nest space, it doesn’t “really” matter whether we own it or rent it. If it is our space, we tend to it. The “system” of nesting includes leaving a place better than how we found it.
I’d love to explore things that people consider goals (that will be met or not met, achieved or failed) and look together at how to recast them into systems for a thriving lifestyle.
How does that feel?
