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That is a nice feeling, isnāt it. There is far less FOMO in my life now than in my younger years and far more JOMO. I like the shift.
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JOMO - one of the essential comforts!
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As I consider this more I would say the nature of the FOMO I do still feel has changed. Itās more centered around family nowā¦(and a few close friends)ā¦as the passage of time lands on me very differently now that I am 63 years of age and have lost both parents and a brother and some friends. I have FOMO around my daughters living so far away from me and not being engaged with their daily lives in any real way. My oldest brother living far away as wellā¦and the clock ticking. Thatās where I get the strongest hits of FOMO. And itās not imagining Iām missing out which is what FOMO expressesā¦I really am missing out and I donāt have an easy solution for this. 
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I do understand Glenn. I have not met my Great Grandsons and may never. I was hoping for FaceTime connection but everyone is too busy. This may not sound good but I donāt care anymore. It is what it is and Iāve tapped and cried enough. I wish them well. I will stay with JOMO as much as possible.
A part of me wants to delete this. Feels like Iām whining. Oh well. I feel kinda vulnerable. So it is. 
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I love this! Iāve internalized a lot of shame about being mostly introverted and easily overstimulated by the sounds, smells, movements and energies of others. Now, as many people in North America are living as though the pandemic is over, Iāve had a lot of shame and judgment as being āwrongā in my lack of desire to socialize or āreturn to normal.ā
So thank you for sharing this reminder that it can be a delight (vs a pathology) to be in my own company!
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@Rach oh this is so understandableā¦! Thatās why I pull myself away from people that are extrovert and those that donāt see the value in the power of being an introvert! Right distance and right depth has really guided me so much!
And wow, Glenn and Jean, seems to me like you guys are have the classical FOMO than the romantic FOMO based on this videoā¦ Iām still very much at the romantic FOMO side of it 
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Thanks for the vid Jun Rongā¦very interesting perspective. I hadnāt considered things in that way before. After watching the vid I would say Iām a pretty healthy(?) mix of both romantic and classical FOMO. I see that I lean toward one or the other depending on the context. For the most part Iād say Iām āclassicalā but there are some contexts where Iām solidly āromanticā. This group make some very worthwhile videos I think. Thanks.
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Yes I guess I am more the classical than the romantic FOMO. There is a little Romantic (according to the video) but I donāt envy people who are out doing things that much anymore. I used to though. Oh if I could only get over being agoraphobic and feel more comfortable going out I wanted to live and work in New York City (this was before I was agoraphobic). If I felt comfortable away from home I wanted to take a train trip across the country or buy a camper and travel. Iām over that now and enjoy being home more, writing, being curious and taking pictures of the sunrises and sunsets. I might be very boring to people who want to be out there. Thanks for the video it was interesting.
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@Glenn @Angelsloveyou thanks for sharing your thoughts from the video! And yes, they do give such refreshing perspective that I perhaps was once quite shut off fromā¦! I feel like for me, I do skew over to the romantic side of FOMO, and always am looking to 1 up people in anything, when especially in the things that matter to me like learning guitarā¦! It gets q exhausting having to be better because others are better and not doing it because I really do WANT to be betterā¦ and express more of my creativity through my instrumentā¦! But thereās probably a lot of trauma going on, so Iām going to keep tapping on it!
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Iām right there with you, Jean! Iām glad you didnāt delete your post. Iāve tapped and cried what feels like an ocean of tears over my family situation. I have chosen JOMO and SELF-care as an essential way to be comforted especially during this complicated and stressful holiday season.
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Itās true I wish Cathy was coming to be with us for Christmas. Andā¦ Iām honestly got JOMO at not having to get in a car or on a plane right now, that we get to be in the flow ā whatever it is ā with the energies of Christmas.
Iāve eaten at restaurants for many holidays, too, and while I do not claim one bit that I am as savvy as a pro chef, I will cook us a leg of lamb and JOMO not having to navigate waiting and seating and tending to kids while at a restaurant this year.
ā¦As I write this there is tenderness for the longing to be with those I love, too. Holding it All and Love to Us All.
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I have JOMO about not having to be at my motherās at 11 and have to leave by noon. I have JOMO for not having to stay up half the night helping put together toys and wrapping them for all my siblings.
But as I read this I have wave of sadness and tears, not sure even what itās about.
Yes much love to Us All.
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I do experience JOMO about quite a few aspects of this time of year and I experience something else tooā¦itās not really FOMOā¦more like SOMOā¦sadness of missing out. No fear involved, just sadness of not being with my kids mostly and a few other thingsā¦no doubt thereās some fear in that sadness I suppose but itās mostly sadness that Iām aware of.
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