Emotional Freedom respects that as human beings, we will experience the full spectrum of emotions. We become more curious than judgmental. We’re willing to explore the intelligence and guidance underlying all our feelings.
With awareness and skill, we learn to “be with” the feelings in our body and thoughts in our head, gain insight and wisdom, and regulate enough so that even if the emotions are intense and hard, we still love and accept ourselves and are free to choose actions that enhance our thriving.
- Helps develop the courage to be with all our thoughts and feelings without disconnecting or self-medicating in unhealthy ways.
- Gives a sense we can manage our emotions which helps us calm in times of fear and feel more confident during times of uncertainty.
- Focusing on emotional freedom for ourselves and others puts us in touch with energies and behaviors that enhance our we-spaces.
- Helps us grow in grounded presence which helps ourselves and others feel safe, respected, and free to feel their own feelings, too, in healthier ways.
It’s hard on our confidence when we’re hijacked by our primitive brain. We can find ourselves reacting in ways that don’t feel like “us.” It’s like, “Where did THAT come from?!?”
We’re animals. We react. But because we’re also imaginative, we can react to fears about the future, beliefs we’ve picked up, as well as associations we’ve made about what has hurt us in the past.
The craving to be free of these kinds of limitations and unhelpful reactions is at the core of the drive to be emotionally self-managed.
When a feeling arises, we want to know how to be with it – even if intense.
Rather than numbing out, running away, or fighting with how we feel, we can bring awareness to the thoughts and body sensations.
Rather than suppressing our feelings or pretending we don’t have them, we can accept where we are and how we feel. Our feelings are real.
Rather than stay stuck, we can adapt by exploring choices. This helps us feel a bit more calm and confident.
Knowing we can make a choice and take a small step, we get to move into inspired action.
Following action, we take a powerful pause and allow our body-mind to discover what our next YES is.
Emotional freedom as a concept reminds us to self-observe. Am I feeling free right now? Ahhh, I’m not! Means it’s time to tend to my emotional freedom with a dose of compassion and skill.
We eat and drink. We poop and pee. Anyone who argues that one doesn’t follow the other lacks grounding in what it means to be alive.
We grow and interact. We feel and release. Some of the things we feel are pretty shitty. Some people and situations piss us off. Yet, for some reason, those that understand that it’s natural to poop and pee find emotional stuff “unnecessary” or “to be avoided.” Good luck with that.
Part of the challenge here is that we’re still in the process of developing ways to handle normal, natural emotions in ways that do not pollute.
What is our equivalent of the toilet when we’re pissed off? Is it taking it out on others? Well, it wasn’t THAT long ago when people just tossed their poop and pee out the window and into the streets. Some do that with their emotions.
It’s time to upgrade how we handle our emotional sewage.
Same goes for our junk. Have you ever seen a discarded washing machine tossed in a ditch along the side of the road? That’s not good for the environment. It doesn’t respect the lives and property of others. The alternative can’t be holding onto our junk until we are crushed by it, either.
To describe emotions in this way we hope makes it clear that for each of us, there are normal emotional byproducts of living we need to tend to in a way that is hygenic and ideally not negatively impactful on others.
Same with our “junk” – limiting beliefs, vows that no longer serve us, obligations and family rules that are dysfunctional, and traumas and griefs that have now been healed.
For us the transformation and upcycling of emotional energy is essential. We’re healing our emotional world together… rather than adding to the emotional pollution. This is both a personal devotion to emotional self-care and a community engagement to support healthy emotional processing.
Tending to the pollution in our emotional world is all our response-ability.
- Emotional Technologies
- Am I feeling free right now?
- How do I not feel free right now?
- Are there feelings I don’t believe I’m “allowed” to have?
- What do I not accept about myself and my emotions?
- How would I like to feel?
- Might I choose to accept myself a bit more deeply and completely… even though I have these emotions?
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