When a person has spent their entire schooling life being asked questions with an expectation that they will know the answer – to solve the problem – it’s understandable we’d bring that to “problems” brought to us by a child, by a partner, a co-worker, and by Life.
It cheers me to see exchanges like this shared as memes. It opens the door to the possibility – and many cases the likelihood – that what a person engaging with us most is asking for is…
Something other than problem solving
- Asking what they are wanting is Useful.
- Getting good at comfort (co-regulation) is Useful.
- Exploring Adaptations (possible solutions) is Useful.
- Helping support their Clarity and future Inspired Actions is Useful.
Can you tell I love being Useful?