It wasn’t what I would have done.
It wasn’t even the color I would pick.
Yet, Adira smiled at how the drawing changed with her addition. So she made another. And another.
Anyone who expects to control how art is done with a toddler has fallen into the Pit of Control. It’s a pit full of poop (and devoid of the Good Stuff).
It wasn’t where I would have gone next.
It was NOT what I would have said.
But I don’t control Cathy – and she doesn’t control me. When we get together to co-create, we actively attune ourselves to a space where neither of us is “controlling” or even “leading” in the traditional way.
Co-Creating gives us an opportunity to go places and share experiences that neither of us would do (or even could do) solo.
To do that effectively does mean accepting the lack of control… and staying focused on being curious, aware, responsive, and emphasizing what feels Good in the process.
Co-Creating is a skill. It brings our knowledge, intentions, and desires into contact with those of others. Curiosity supports it’s evolution. A YES-and… attitude keeps it flowing.
Our natural tendency to seek control (or defer and wait to be told what to do) is a pitfall… one that sucks the vitality out of the dance of mutual heartistry.
Cathy and I will be exploring this together. We hope you’ll join us.
Replay is below
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P.S. Adira says, “I did not get up here by myself. I did not push myself. And while I can be rather insistent, this joy is co-created with my Da-Da (and I share it with you now). I hope you swing happy & free in co-creation today!”
