Co-Regulation

[RickThrivingNow]

[RickThrivingNow]

"No one talks about the shame of reacting in ways that hurt others.

When survival mode hijacks our response, we can say things we don’t mean.

We can shut down when someone needs us.

We can lash out when all we wanted was connection.

And once everything quiets down?

We’re left with shame. Self-hatred.

The fear that we’re ‘the problem’.

But listen please: A dysregulated reaction does not make you unworthy.

It makes you human.

Shame wants you to believe you’re beyond repair.

But true accountability isn’t about drowning in self-hate.

It’s about understanding what happened so you can change the pattern."

— @All_Is_Balanced on X

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For me this is where co-regulated people can understand: Ah, there’s dysregulation here! What is said/done I want to protect myself from but it represents how their Primitive Brain is coping with these big feelings and triggers. We’ll explore a deeper truth once we’re all co-regulated…

[RickThrivingNow]

Co-regulation is real. When you’re with someone who feels safe, your bodies literally sinc. Cortisol drops, hearts align. You don’t just feel better—you biologically heal.

[RickThrivingNow]

We learn self-regulation through co-regulation. We did not come into this world with the capacity to meet our own needs. We came with the skills to be with others & co-regulate. Our co-regulating experience as a child shapes our ability to self-regulate.