"No one talks about the shame of reacting in ways that hurt others.
When survival mode hijacks our response, we can say things we donāt mean.
We can shut down when someone needs us.
We can lash out when all we wanted was connection.
And once everything quiets down?
Weāre left with shame. Self-hatred.
The fear that weāre āthe problemā.
But listen please: A dysregulated reaction does not make you unworthy.
It makes you human.
Shame wants you to believe youāre beyond repair.
But true accountability isnāt about drowning in self-hate.
Itās about understanding what happened so you can change the pattern."
ā @All_Is_Balanced on X
For me this is where co-regulated people can understand: Ah, thereās dysregulation here! What is said/done I want to protect myself from but it represents how their Primitive Brain is coping with these big feelings and triggers. Weāll explore a deeper truth once weāre all co-regulatedā¦