Real Skills Workshop - Community Event
Boost Your Energy!
Real Skills Workshop: Be What Matters
Hosts: Rick Wilkes (@Rick) and Cathy Vartuli (@Cathy)
Recorded Tue Feb 28 2023
Replay is below
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Want to Be Calm? That Will Take Energy…
Just calm down! But how?!?
Besides, don’t we need to “calm down” when we have too much energy?
Yes… and the issue isn’t how much energy we have. It’s where that energy and attention is (and is not!) flowing.
“My anxiety is way UP!” – Yep! You’re probably in your head or swirling around in your chaotic energy.
To calm DOWN means to bring your energy… down! Consciously feel the ground. Feel your lower body. Guide, direct, and move your energy to places and spaces in you that need energy flow in order to… be calm.
Just as there are parts of you that activate fear and anxiety, there are other cells and systems and channels that activate calming.
Were you taught how to intentionally move your energy as a kid? I sure wasn’t. If I was told to calm down, it was as if someone told a cave dweller to turn off the light. What?!? How?!?
We can learn. All the states of being that matter are also tied to energy management. To calm down is to bring presence and awareness. To slow and deepen breathing. To ground. To unwind tensions with artfulness. (Or awkwardness!)
We BOOST the energy of presence (which takes energy from our mindless anxiety and excessive vigilance) and moves the energy into the Here and Now.
It’s so powerful. It can be felt. It can be taught.
Cathy and I will be doing such exercises during our Real Skills Workshop on Tuesday, February 28th at 830pm.
You’re probably guessing that Boost Your Energy will also be about boosting confidence. And peacefulness. And wise fearlessness. And my own focus: Eagerness.
You bring your focus… what you want the Be More of… and we’ll explore how to boost your energy in that direction.
Please join us. We’ll have a great time together.
Replay is below
We look forward to engaging with you!
With smiles and love,
Rick & Cathy
Your Emotional Freedom Coaches
Schedule Private, Gliding Scale Coaching Sessions Here
P.S. Adira says, “I love being boosted into the air! Weeeee are so good together.”
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Your WHYs Boost Your Energy
800 days!
800 days of Morning Miles.
Some were not in the morning. Some were not a full mile.
And yet, how in the WORLD did I manage with a new baby and work and everything to find the energy (!) to walk (almost) every day?
I applied emotional skills. Real skills.
I know myself and one “reason” for walking would not have kept this as a part of my life. I know myself, and if I had set out to do all these consecutive days to “prove I could do it” I would have stopped that day early on I was sick and it wasn’t right for me to walk.
That would have been the end of it.
I need a stack of reasons, ones that speak to Who I Am, Who I Want to Be, and especially what matters to my heart. Without those, I just… won’t.
That goes for fitness. That goes for preparing food for the family. That definitely is true for all the WORK I put into Thriving Now.
It’s why Cathy and I are going to be doing this particular workshop next Tuesday. If you want to Be What Matters you benefit from boosting your energy when it matters… when you are resisting, when it feels “too hard,” and when you Just Don’t Wanna!
Here are the 17 reasons I’ve kept The Morning Mile up for 800 days:
- Vitality Re-activated!
- Expand my energy
- Experience Nature in its weather variations
- Get to be an Explorer
- See and sense what’s around me - sensory awareness
- Feel the earth beneath my feet
- Dance along the trail
- Listen to music
- Unwind my tensions
- Use my stored weight
- Build strength to be able to carry my daughter as she grows
- Process emotions that get clogged in my tissues
- Move lymph to support my immune system
- Have more temperature resilience (so I can enjoy cold, hot, wet, dry weather)
- Maintain my physical and sexual presence
- Have a positive, FUN physical experience I can do each day with an intention for 5000+ steps a day (without overdoing it)
- Live longer and healthier to be alive and vibrant with my partner and children
Looking at this list, I assure you there were days where only ONE of these seemed to matter enough to boost my energy, get me off the couch, shoes on, in the car, and to the trail.
What I know is that if something truly matters to you, you can come up with a list of why’s. When you do, when that list supports you, you get enough of an energy boost to… Be and Do what matters.
I wish that for you. And we’re here deeply and completely to support you in having this kind of thriving in your life, too.
Will you join us for the workshop?
Replay is below
We look forward to engaging with you!
With smiles and love,
Rick & Cathy
Your Emotional Freedom Coaches
Schedule Private, Gliding Scale Coaching Sessions Here
P.S. Adira says, “Thank you Da-Da for all the miles! Up! Up!”
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Boost Your Energy to Be OK
Being OK doesn’t sound very… enticing. But there were times in my life where I didn’t feel OK. It felt like suffering inside.
I didn’t realize that I needed to boost my energy, but in a skillful way.
Skillful as in allowing it to take hours, not seconds. Hundreds of days of energy applied to Being What Matters – not a sudden flash of miraculous wish fulfillment and then happily every after.
I know that we can channel our energy. We can move energy from one place in our body-mind to another, to boost what matters to us.
It’s a sweet accomplishment when we go from resistant to OK. It is relief to go from anxious and worried to “okay, right here, right now.”
From OK we can shift energy out of the primitive brain. From OK we have resources we don’t have when down or scared.
So… tomorrow we’re getting together to practice. We’ll focus in on an emotional state that matters to you. We’ll cultivate a list of Why’s. We’ll explore energy in the body-mind that can be tapped into (yes, tapped!) to support that state of being.
Cathy and I hope you’ll join us and add your energy to the circle!
Replay is below
We look forward to engaging with you!
With smiles and love,
Rick & Cathy
Your Emotional Freedom Coaches
Schedule Private, Gliding Scale Coaching Sessions Here
P.S. Adira says, “I use beauty to boost my energy. I highly recommend it!”
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Boost Your Energy! - Workshop Recording
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Boost Your Energy!
[00:00:00] Boost your energy. This is a real skills workshop to help you be what matters, the things that emotionally matter to you, take energy. , And so we are getting together in this workshop to explore the skills and the attitudes and the approaches that help you be savvy with your energy, your physical energy, particularly your emotional energy, your , mental clarity and other things coming together so that you get to have the experiences that really matter to you.
[00:00:33] I’m Rick from Thriving. Now I’m here with Cathy Vartuli from Thriving Now and the Intimacy Dojo. Hi Cathy. Yeah, it’s great to be here. Did you want to, uh, talk about. what we mean by energy. Cause that can mean a lot of things to people, especially about this idea of boosting it. Right? , I think our society has a, a big drive and we’re always supposed to have energy.
[00:01:00] We’re supposed to push, we’re supposed to use willpower, and we’re supposed to like always 24 7, drink the coffee, eat the sugar, drink the energy, drink whatever, like get going. You should jump out of bed, run all day. You get home, you do something else. You’re going, going, going. Just so you know, that’s not what we’re talking about.
[00:01:20] Because that’s very adrenaline driven. That’s very social pressure driven. That’s very, uh, perform all the time kind of push where our bodies are rev and often we’re using our survival brain, our adrenaline, our cortisol, our fear to drive us, to keep us going and that can just wear us out. And I have fingers pointing back at me cuz I, I’ve done that so much of my life where of course I can work 12 hours really hard and then come home and do some webinars and then record some videos and clean the house and like, but I was so tired all the time.
[00:01:54] I was dragging all the time and I was so fearful that I was pushing myself. The problem was I was burning myself out and I wasn’t actually addressing the issues of my fears, my anxieties, my worries. I was using them to kind of push myself to keep going. That’s hard on our bodies. It’s hard on our nervous systems.
[00:02:15] It’s hard on our friends, . Um, so we’re talking about a much more grounded and authentic energy that acknowledges self-care, that acknowledges times we need rest. And there’s a natural ebb and flow with that. It’s not, we’re not pinned all the way with our, our foot on the gas pedal all the way going 110 miles an hour all the time as a minimum that.
[00:02:37] Acknowledging that there’s an E of flow, there’s acknowledging that if we put out a lot of energy, which we wanna be able to have the energy and the focus to do when it’s needed, then we may need to rest. We may need to kind of regather ourselves and give ourselves time to replenish. So kind of like, just like an inhale and an exhale, like it’s okay to, there may be times when.
[00:02:56] We may need to put out a lot of energy. We may need to scream to get someone’s attention or someone’s in a bad place. We really wanna be there. We want be able to have the resources to do that. And we also wanna acknowledge the self-care that’s needed and that we’re not just ab doing machine, we are means that have an inflow and an outflow.
[00:03:18] And it’s okay to rev the engine sometimes in primitive brain even, but that we need to come back and let ourselves charge. Absolutely. And you just touched on it, we’re not doing machines even though that is a big part of the culture, it can be celebrated. Um, I re I’ve started watching a lot of nature movies, um, a long time ago.
[00:03:44] I continue to do that cuz it helps me recalibrate. Cause I think of the cheetah, one of the, you know, the fastest land animal and. You look at how short a burst of that speed they can actually do without killing themselves. Yes. So here they are. This gives them a tremendous advantage and it’s not successful very often, like one out of 20 times.
[00:04:18] And they need to know and feel in their body, Hey, I really gave it my all and now I need to move my energy or something else. And if you’ve put out a big burst of energy, what’s your guess? What is, what would your body need? Well, if you’re a cheetah, you need your heart rate to start unwinding and so you’re, you’re boosting the energy of from.
[00:04:53] from race to Rest. Mm-hmm. to unwind. It’s not run, run, run until you collapse because that wouldn’t be a good survival strategy for the cheetah or us. And yet I did, I ran, ran, ran, ran, ran, ran, ran, ran, ran until I collapsed. And then I had to kind of work out like, oh, you know, that’s not the way this body’s actually designed.
[00:05:20] And I think that that’s part of what Thriving now stands for. We want physical vitality, including the vitality to rest and recover, like have a really good sleep. And that takes an energy, right? Like if I’m really in my head at night,
[00:05:43] I don’t need more of a generic boost of energy. It’s not the time for me to go brew a, a pot of coffee . Okay. Really? Um, or to, or like, I haven’t, I’ve never had a Red Bull. I suspect that if I took a Red Bull to bull tonight in order to boost my energy to sleep, that would not work out well. Um, but I do need to boost the energy from my, the part of me that’s here for 90 minutes with you, with a seven minute break.
[00:06:16] Um, I need to, I need to take that energy state, that state of being and all the doing that happens. The words, the, the following, the, the notes, all of that. And I’m going to boost the energy into what? Well, the part of my rest and digest system. Mm-hmm. and. . If I don’t, I will have a hard time sleeping and I forget sometimes.
[00:06:46] But then my body reminds me. Say, you know, you’re still, all of your energy is running around here. What about like deepen your belly or your core? Mm-hmm. like, can you sink As you sit, can you sink a little bit more? And you can try this. Notice the energy that’s in your head and see if you can allow, boost the energy that’s more in your core.
[00:07:18] Taking energy from and imagining, you can just start with just imagining that energy flowing to parts of you that maybe could use a little boost in order to be more present. In order to be, to take,
[00:07:37] to take in what’s right for you. Like I, I believe when I attend, uh, someone else’s workshop, that there’s a filter that I can feel more in my gut and in my heart about what’s right for me, and if I’m paying too much attention because it’s on Zoom, like, you know, like leaning in and like, um, the problem with that is that it’s, I’ll pick up stuff subconsciously, but it’s not the same as, ah, that’s for me.
[00:08:12] And if you do that, we’d love to hear in the chat if you’re up for that. Like, what are you noticing? It could be a resistance, it could be a, I don’t know how to do this, which is fine. We’ll tap on that. Um, but again, I, my hope is that. We start to tune to authentic energy, which is natural. It can be restorative, it can be activating, it can be flowing toward what you really want to do, like a state of being that’s, that’s just right for what you want to do.
[00:08:45] And it can also be the kind of energy that puts you in a, a place of, of, hmm, possibility. You notice what I did with my hands here? Like when I think of, hmm, possibility. This is the posture, it’s physical. There’s an attitude of, hmm, I’m sitting with the possibilities of where we go next. In this workshop, I get a little smile.
[00:09:16] My energy is boosting around possibilities. And that is very different than if I’m trying to checkbox, checkbox, checkbox. Nothing wrong with checkbox. I do that too. But yeah, someone said, I feel more aliveness in my core. Ah, that’s a boost. Yeah, I like that. That’s durability. I love that you’re like, we can feel into our bodies and I think there’s, it’s useful.
[00:09:46] I. . Um, if we can just come back, if you let yourself, like Rick was saying, just feel into your body and see how we’re not necessarily balanced. There might be energy in some areas where your brain is buzzy, but your body is feeling very sluggish. We can invite, so just like, um, I think energy follows intention.
[00:10:08] Often we can invite it to move to a certain area, and I do believe that we’re surrounded by energy. Like we can invite some of that in. I notice like if I’m around people I really trust, I often feel recharged and like, like I’m feeling good and happy and playful. And if I’m with someone I don’t feel so safe with, I tend to put up like a shield and I’m not letting so much energy in.
[00:10:32] So we don’t have to necessarily generate all of our energy ourselves. We can invite it from our surroundings and our environment and also our bodies. Just want to have that balance, like so you, if you’d like to just feel into your body and just notice if there’s any places that feel either pinched off or constrained or tense and just bringing some gentle attention and warmth to those areas.
[00:10:57] And just asking them, maybe imagine that you’re putting your hand on that particular area if, or putting it there if it reaches easily and asking what’s kind of stopping the flow there, what’s, what’s holding things back? And sometimes it’s habit or maybe we’re sitting in an odd position or you weren’t comfortable, but we get into habits where we kind of constrain the flow in our bodies.
[00:11:21] So just inviting that to kind of balance throughout your body. And if you want to notice your feet on the floor, and imagine that they’re just kind of opening up. I like to imagine the, the centers of my feet are opening up and letting energy flow up from the earth into my body. Just, and just take, if you’d like to close your eyes and take a deep breath and imagine that your feet are opening up and just receiving from the earth.
[00:11:48] This beautiful for me, it’s often cool. Um, I sometimes imagine the scent of pine, whatever you like, like what would you like to invite to come into your body and kind of recharge and then that at the same time you can allow extra energy, things that you have too much of. Maybe it’s stress, maybe it’s tension, maybe it’s stale energy.
[00:12:13] Imagine that flowing out of your feet or out with your breath, if you like, which you can invite your body to see. Or maybe it’s going out of the top of your head like a volcano. Maybe it’s old anger that you haven’t been able to process. So just imagine this beautiful, cool, clear energy coming in from the earth, fresh and clean.
[00:12:33] And it’s kind of helping push out the energies that maybe have been held onto or maybe are stale or not needed, or you have too much of. And just let, um, let your body kind of be with that and get to a, a place where it feels a little more grounded, a little more filled up with good stuff and released some of that old stale tension.
[00:12:56] Just take another nice deep breath and this can go on. You don’t have to like always pay attention to it, if that makes sense. You can invite that to continue going on on your background and I just try to check in on it and sometimes I realize I stop doing it, but there if you can make a little habit of like inviting that to go on in the background and kind of just checking and, oh yeah, I turned it off.
[00:13:21] I’m gonna turn it back on. That can really leave you feeling more balanced through the day.
[00:13:38] I put the the inflow as a boost and I also consider that there’s attention and intention and some work involved in the letting go. As well. And you’re boosting your energy toward a state that matters to you and that changes. Uh, as part of this series of workshops, I did have you pick, um, a emotional state that matters to you, and I’d like you to tune into it if you have one.
[00:14:22] If, if not, you can pick one that’s like, Ooh, I would like to feel more this, that would matter to me. Whatever your intuition brings, and notice that it’s, it’s not unreasonable to, to know that that will take energy. Mm-hmm. , it will take, it will take energy to boost yourself into that state of being.
[00:14:52] it’ll take energy to restore you back to that. You know, if we have a table and there’s, you know, someone’s, you know, left a lot of crusty stuff all over it, it takes energy to restore the table to being clean and ready to eat on again. Mm-hmm. , um, it takes energy to let go of yesterday’s meal. There can be clenching, grunting, and work.
[00:15:18] And I say that because I wa I want, because I never had this notion that I’m not just a physical being that there’s energy moving in me. This concept of energy medicine and energy psychology and the like, um, this was transformational to me because it opened up an awareness that, you know, okay, I’ve got a headache, but where’s my energy?
[00:15:45] Oh, my energy’s all like, Here in my neck is like trying to hold my body, the energy. It was palpable once I asked the question, where’s my energy now? And what would it take to like, unwinding is a state of being. It’s active. And as Kathy says, you know, once you dig the irrigation ditch and you get some flow going in it, you don’t have to pay attention to it all the time, but maybe one of the walls collapses and you think parts of it are being cut off.
[00:16:18] Um, the meridian system, which has, uh, been with human awareness for thousands of years, uh, that’s a circuit. It flows. And fundamentally, Chinese medicine is about picking up where you need, where you have a lot of energy and where you’re, um, deficient and low and helping you. Assisting you in moving it.
[00:16:44] Tapping is a boost of energy. Even if what it’s doing is taking you from being terrified to being back in your body. You’ve boosted the parts of you that say, I’m okay. Does that make sense? There’s a whole thought. I’m okay. There’s a whole biochemistry. I’m okay. There’s a posture, like if I’m scared, my physical posture is I’m not okay.
[00:17:13] Even though I’m not okay. Oh, I’m actually surprisingly safe right here, right now. Oh. Even though the toes taxes made me feel just really terrified. taxes will do that.
[00:17:30] I’m, I’m choosing to be allman confident cuz that matters to me. Yeah. That’s choosing to be calm and confident. I think that’s a very powerful and sustaining place of energy. Yes. And there, so like I, I think of that, like that calm and confident energy that we’re going through where we can be focused and tuned into what we need to.
[00:17:54] We may have times that spike something emergency may happen, we come back to that and then there may be times when we allow ourselves to just have a downtime. I, that was something I really struggled with. I had a really hard time just chilling. Um, and Covid, I remember . Yes. Yes. I was like, no, we have to do stuff.
[00:18:14] Let’s do the next thing. Here’s the 20 page outline for our one hour workshop. Oh yes. Our first, first couple workshops were like that. We were very well prepared, , we were prepared for like a year long course for an hour course. Um, but I think that, and now we’re on three by five cards. Yes. Well just like a little post it with some notes.
[00:18:35] So, uh, it only took 16 years. But I think if we can, we can envision our life as a place where we’re allowing energy and sus sustaining energy in from the environment around us, from the earth, from the air, from the, from the here, it’s rainy. I just love to imagine that rain kind of washing away old things they don’t need, um, from people around us that love us from the food we eat, the air we breathe.
[00:19:03] It’s all like, it’s sustaining us and giving us more energy. But then we can, if we can just see ourselves as kind of like we wanna come back, we don’t wanna have this baseline of calm and confident with some spikes up and some, some lulls down while we recover, but just kind of like a gentle fluctuation around that space and knowing that if we do have to go to a sustained.
[00:19:26] There’s been times when I’ve had to have three or four days of really high output, okay, let me plan a weekend where I can just be really quiet. I’m gonna curl up with a book. I’m going to, you know, make sure I take care of myself and replenish myself. So I think that if we can, I love that E F T keeps coming back to that calm and confident and I think that grounded, authentic energy flow, I know that I get a lot more done when I’m in that space of calm confidence where I can sit down, I can look at things logically versus I would often be, in the past, I would be very frenetic and adrenaline and I would get a lot done, but it was bouncing around and doing a little bit of this and this and this, and having to retrace that.
[00:20:08] And so I, I really think that when I can come in a calm, confident way, I get more accomplished with less expenditure and less wear and tear on my system. Yeah.
[00:20:21] Ah, So, uh, are you tapping, I see some, I see some people that I know do activities that, um, you know, whether it’s art or, um, martial arts or, um, other types of, of, uh, project management and all kinds of things. Um, I’m wondering if, if you want to share in the chat, like, what’s something that you have found that helps you boost energy toward being in that state, like in your creative artwork, is there something physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually, that, that boosts your energy in that direction of that state of being, not the doing necessarily of it?
[00:21:15] But helps prepare you to be in the, the state of being that you know is, has got flow and, and energies available to that. What matters to you? Hmm. Anyone have anything?
[00:21:33] I’d love to love to see what people doing, artwork and dance.
[00:21:40] I read on Twitter today, a, a very, a person who writes a lot and, and, uh, they said that they go for a walk before they ever sit down to write that, that walking. Um, uh, their partner said to them, um, that only took you 10 minutes. How? And no, I walked for an hour, , and then I came back and. My state of being was exactly right.
[00:22:15] There was that moving energy, boosting energy into the physiology and the, and the getting all the things attuned to for them. The writing act is one that, um, is ripened after the walk. Yeah. Anyone else?
[00:22:38] um, art play with friends. Mm-hmm. . Mm-hmm. Journal, guided meditations, tapping, uh, abstract painting. Um, I love art. Play with friends. That’s really lovely. I had a friend here, um, for a couple days and we just had a lovely time and it was really, we were both very easy, so sometimes we kind of debrief about, we were both doing coaching sessions at one point.
[00:23:05] We kind of debriefed about like, I felt like I did a good job, or I was struggling with getting this concept to court or cross without giving any confidentiality. How do I. How could you think I could explain this better? Like there was a kind of brain and then other times we would sit and watch, uh, uh, we watch.
[00:23:21] Never Have I Ever, which is a Netflix show. That was quite lovely. Um, but like we were alternating between like kind of digging deep and brainstorming with each other about how to do a better job and also like playing like, just kind of like, oh, let’s binge watch this for another couple episodes. I should go to bed, but let’s watch one more.
[00:23:40] Um, so there was a like, I don’t know, that felt left me feeling really recharged as well. Mm-hmm. . So that like kind of, um, Co-creation in play and in, in, uh, like I love co-creating with you, Rick. That’s really fun for me. Um, someone said I do martial arts, uh, things that get me ready to go for class and events are things getting, are getting changed into the costume, the GE and going on onto the mat, the new warmups and greeting, everyone getting used to the idea of being there.
[00:24:13] It’s like a ritual in a way. Yeah. I. Like, there’s ways we can kind of line ourselves up. And I love the idea of, um, if we want to get work done and we’re having trouble with it, we can create a ritual that helps us drop in faster. Like, is it lighting a candle? Is it like sitting in a particular place or putting, I put on my pink playlist.
[00:24:32] I love pink. Um, if I need to clean my house or get something done, like taxes that I don’t like to, I like put that on and that’s like, I drop in really fast. My braid has learned that we play pink, we get stuff done, um, and we jam out to it. So ritual is great. Well, and let’s, let’s, uh, that leads us to like, why, why do we have to do it this work?
[00:24:55] You know, why, what? And, um, we’re coming to understand that in the human brain we not only have a primitive brain, which I think has been so conditioned through our schooling and everything else, as I look back at my whole school experience, I was in my primitive brain. Most of the time. Yeah. And it’s not a, it’s not a surprise that when I went into business for myself that I brought that same kind of energy pattern.
[00:25:23] We have a big swath of our thinking brain called the default mode network, and it says, well, what do we do without thinking him? Yeah. And so if somebody comes home and they sit down and they grab the remote control and they turn on Netflix, um, that’s in the default mode network. Mm-hmm. are the things that we do regularly, unconsciously, the, it’s not even nec, I don’t think the unconscious is necessarily the right, um, expression for me.
[00:25:57] To me it’s like, well, what do I do if I’m not thinking about it? Yeah. When I get up in the morning, I go and I make my coffee. That’s in my default mode network. If I wanted to change that, I would need to boost energy in a different way. And so acknowledging that there’s a skill of practicing a, make it a ritual.
[00:26:26] If a ritual works for you. Um, make it a activation like when I walk into the room or I do this mm-hmm. , um,
[00:26:41] it can be something that when you find yourself, like for me, um, I’m so improvisational mm-hmm. that when I, I’ve been practicing eagerness. So for me, eagerness is not part of my default mode. I am working consciously with skill to get it there. And what I notice is that I have associated now, If I’m overwhelmed looking at my to-do list, unclear about what I am to do, the pattern for me is like, Hmm, well what matters to me be what matters of these tasks, which is the work that matters to me right now, like has that accessibility, oh, I’m grateful for the opportunity, and then I can lean in.
[00:27:37] I have to actually, even if I’m sitting in a meditative posture with a computer in my lap, I need to lean in a little bit and physically change my posture. Mm-hmm. , to activate something that feels to me is that like the spark eagerness I’ve come to understand is not like a state of being that lasts a long time.
[00:28:00] It’s like that very potent moment when you go from. This is a match to, this is a lit match, , ah, , but that’s not where it ends. Now I’m going to be putting it to the, the what matters. And as soon as I get into, get some energy boosted around the what matters, it’s acting as, as an activation energy for me. I don’t stay in what I would call the eager state.
[00:28:33] Mm-hmm. , that’s just me. Some people are eager, much of their lives, , my nine year old, um, . Um, but I think we can also reinforce the, the neural pathways that create that. Yes. It’s become easier and easier now that I’m aware of, oh, I have this energy. It wants to express, like overwhelm to me is like, It feels like this.
[00:29:01] And, and like what matters to me brings the energy down into my heart. So now more of that energy is going down into my heart. And as it, as it boosts this, the energy here, my vision changes and I’m clearer my mental clarity because there’s less noise to, you know, I’ve moved the energy down. It can point to that one.
[00:29:28] That’s the one that we’re right for. You’re, you’re it, it’s, it’s next. And if I then like, it matters to me to be eager about my life. Like, it just feels more alive and meaningful to me to have that little spark rather than, uh, okay, gotta grab the sledgehammer and then work my way into the hard labor of my life.
[00:29:57] Which I can, which isn’t true, but I can certainly, um, I, I can certainly wind myself into that. Um, mm-hmm. , does that make sense? Yeah, I, I like, I like how you’re employing that. Um, and we kind of touched on it a little bit already, but I wanna emphasize that there’s, we, like, when Rick’s trying to get things done, um, he’s done his, uh, over 800 days now on his morning mile.
[00:30:26] So that’s a physical exertion, but also there’s emotional too. I think especially until we get into the habit of it, um, doing something new can feel scary or unusual. And if we have a default mode of like going to, laying, laying down the couch or, or on the bed and just kind of collapsing, changing that, even if we’re taking baby steps, which Rick and I always encourage, like, okay, maybe you walk around the.
[00:30:52] Once or you like, you know, I have a treadmill right here. Maybe I do a couple minutes of treadmill before I lay on the bed. Any, any change like that is gonna take some, also, some, some energy that’s psyche psychic, like emotional, mental energy to do our willpower. If we keep doing it though, that amount of willpower goes needed, goes down cuz there’s a habit.
[00:31:14] The neural pathways actually grow that way. Yeah. And there’s still the emo the energetic output of like physically walking and our bodies are very adaptive. So one of the things that happens is someone will start walking, um, and they, the body learns to do it more efficiently and it gets in shape. So it’s less energy needed for that.
[00:31:35] So if we wanna build good habits that will sustain us in our life, that doesn’t mean we need to run a marathon every day, but maybe we, we start associa and associative things can help. So if I, every time I brush my teeth, I tap, they become linked, and then I just, I only have to remember to do one, and then they become linked and I do them together.
[00:31:56] So if I walk through the, you know, whatever your schedule allows, but if I walk through the door and instead of collapsing on the couch and watching tv, I first get on the treadmill for a little bit of time, that after a while walking through the door becomes associated with that. Um, and it’s amazing how powerful that is.
[00:32:14] For a while I was listening to this particular podcast that was encouraging me to do too much for my body, but every time I hear that podcast, I’d wanna get on the treadmill. Cause I used to wa listen to it on the treadmill. Um, so just remember we can link things together to kind of like, you know, I don’t know if, you know, when people bike race, they race right behind each other to kind of draft on each other.
[00:32:36] There’s less energy needed. And the other thing is a lot of, and I do this all the time, I think however hard it is today is how hard it’s always gonna be for the rest of my life. So if it’s like, oh my God, this is so hard to gather so hard, would you, oh my God. And I wanna do this. Yes, yes. Let’s do some tapping.
[00:32:55] It’s so hard to be that today. It’s so hard to be that today. Go ahead. Okay. I thought you were gonna meet it. Karate chop. Even though I’m convinced it’s always gonna be this hard. Even though a part of me is convinced it will always be this hard, no. No wonder I’m no wonder I’m really resistant to this.
[00:33:15] No wonder I’m always resistant to this. Maybe I’ll be okay. Maybe I will be okay. Maybe it will get easier and maybe it will get easier. Even though I am so resistant, I don’t want to do this even though I’m so resistant. I don’t want to do this. It’s too hard. , what if it will get a little bit easier each day?
[00:33:36] What if it will get a little easier over time? I’m not willing to say each day . I might been my experience. I might be really surprised later on how easy it has gotten. I might be really surprised later on how easy it has gotten. Top of the head. I have so much resistance. I have so much resistance eyebrow.
[00:33:58] I don’t want to let this energy flow. I don’t want to let this energy flow. It’s so hard. It’s so hard. Yeah. I feel tired just thinking about it. I feel tired just thinking about it under the nose, and I do wanna start moving forward with this, and I wanna start moving forward with this. Jen, what if I can just take it in baby steps?
[00:34:22] What if I can just take it in baby steps collarbone and allow myself to notice how much easier it’s getting? and allow myself to notice how much easier it’s getting under the arm. Let my survival brain actually notice I’m surviving doing this let my survival brain notice. I’m actually surviving doing this top of the head cuz it’s convinced I’m gonna die if I walk on that treadmill.
[00:34:47] Yeah.
[00:34:51] Uh, I’m going to be punished. Notice, whatever it is for you. But I do know that my survival brain can be very dramatic at times. And if I say like, oh, I wanna do that, it’s like, oh my God, it’s every day. It’s gonna be so hard. It’s gonna be, I’ll be so tired, I wanna have energy. And I’m like, really? Two minutes on the treadmill today.
[00:35:12] Like, that’s so hard. And then before I had hurt myself, I was like, I was at 30 minutes a day really easily, like just gradually increasing and my body was really enjoying it. And now my knee is finally healed and I’m ready to get back in the treadmill. And my survival brain is like being such a diva. And I try to be kind to it.
[00:35:29] And sometimes I’m like, really? Really? You’re that terrified to get on the treadmill? We’ve done this before. It’s not that hard. Mm-hmm. . Mm-hmm. . So, you know, just if we can notice that there’s a lot of drama in our head sometimes and that can, the fear of that dramatic thing can be like, oh, I just don’t even wanna go there.
[00:35:47] Versus gently stepping forward into whatever you wanna create and. Things that would be worthwhile to you? That’s worthwhile, that’s worth putting out some energy for.
[00:36:00] You said about, um, like when people are bike racing, um, they draft and there’s, um, to me the real, real skills, if you have a skill that you’ve been working on, like maybe it’s, I can, I can give myself a space and right now that, that looks like I go and I lie down. Right. You can add to that. Well, I, I go and lie down by adding to that.
[00:36:37] Like, when I go lie down, it’s an awareness and I’m, I’m needing, wanting and, and taking space. I am, I’m giving myself. Like, I call it a horizontal reset. Now imagine I lied down like, oh, I’m so tired, I just can’t face this. Um, just the act of lying down is, does change us, right? Like our physiology, our breathing, the, the way that gravity works in our body, it is going to do something.
[00:37:07] When you add the layer of, well, what do I want to call this of hiding? Well, that’s, yes, and that’s your primitive brain maybe. Um, what are you doing on the positive side when you lie down? Oh, well, I’m giving my sense that myself, a chance to regulate. Well, what could you add where in your body could use a boost of regulating comfort energy?
[00:37:35] Um, so for example, you know, I may need to hold a part of my body, or two parts of my body need to meaning. It’s so strong when I tune into it that it feels like so, right. It’s, it’s, it’s like, it’s so right to hold myself right there and you’re like, oh, okay. That really is a reset. And then you start coming up with Yep.
[00:38:03] You tell people instead of, I’m gonna go lie down, I’m gonna go give myself a horizontal reset. Yes. I assure you that people react to that a little differently. It’s a nap. Weird, right? Mm-hmm. . Um, and you’re tuning yourself a little differently too. Like a nap means something, a horizontal reset for me. You get, you get to decide what that looks like, what it sounds like, what it, what it’s, what it’s like for you to change your state of being.
[00:38:34] Um, and yeah, there’s, um, if you’re having trouble, Like again, I could not go from overwhelmed to eager about something. There is no pathway. Okay? There’s no bridge across the Grand Canyon and it felt like that. But I can ground myself and I can notice what matters to me because I was practicing what matters.
[00:39:04] And, um, when I would not want to go on the morning mile one, I was free to not go. It wasn’t 800 days straight. There were a few days when I had Covid. Definitely was not my body’s desire to go do that. Um, I think one time when I was sick, I gave myself credit for the morning mile because I walked out outside, just walked outside, , took a few breaths of fresh air, so like 15 steps, and that was my morning mile.
[00:39:39] And sometimes I go two miles. But I said, I shared in the email, um, and it’s on the, the, the page where we’re describing this as well. I needed a stack of whys because some days, um, like I may be just like so tired of parenting that the idea of living a long and vital life for my children, actually, there’s no
[00:40:11] Like that’s not gonna get me on the trail, right? But to let nature reset my nervous system, oh, To be able to replenish myself with some beauty, to be able to shake it out and, and in a different space to tune in to my guidance about where to go and how long to walk and really tune into my body
[00:40:40] So when you have, and I know that some of you are not writers, you know, you don’t tend to think in terms of lists, make a song out of it or something, but I, I have noticed, um, very consistently that, um, if in all the cases where I had trouble being consistent with something, I did not have a list of whys that meant enough to me across my life to be able to find a pathway to boost my energy inspiration.
[00:41:16] Is one way, but also encouragement and just that gentle, compassionate reminder that this is good for me. And then when you go out, I remember the first time that I went out when it was ugly, raining, like cold, wet in your face, rain, where Rick would never have gone out before. But one of my lists was I want to experience nature and know that there’s no bad weather.
[00:41:46] There may be weather that’s unsafe that I wouldn’t go out in, but a rain like that with the right gear, which I had. I didn’t want to always feel repulsed by whether that wasn’t perfect. Mm-hmm. , I still remember about 500 yards into it. I looked at, and I am just drenched and it’s cold, but the, the energy that was in that woods, Pine, big pine trees.
[00:42:16] You were talking about smelling pine. I stopped. I felt it. I felt like, you know, there is nobody else out here. And I’m getting to experience nature in a way that I’ve never experienced it before. And there was also that sense of I am living my why. I’m being in my why, what matters to me. Um, I think it can be helpful if that’s, like, I’ve had moments of flow where it was just so easy to get things done and I didn’t experience it being heavy or hard.
[00:42:52] So just noticing what those are for you could be a good way to kind of go, huh? What, where can I get some good flow? Where can I help my body? Because I think if we’re really stuck, I, I work with a lot of people that are in business. Um, It’s like if we’re stuck, the, it’s hard to get flowing, but if we can get a little trickle going, we can start getting a little bit of a stream and moving.
[00:43:17] So like thinking about places and times when you’ve had some good flow and inviting that for yourself and trying to set that up can be really helpful. Um, and I think kindness is, someone said they loved how I talked with, when I, I try to be kind to my primitive brain. There are times when I’m like, seriously, I’m just over it.
[00:43:37] Um, but I didn’t know that my, which is good boundaries. , it’s okay to tell like a dear, I love you. I know you can’t color on the wall though. I still feel a little guilty cuz I could have painted them afterwards and she really wanted to. Um, but she was here. She asked to color around my walls and I told her no.
[00:43:56] And she went into such dejection and depor disappointment one year. Two, um, that for me,
[00:44:05] some kindness for ourselves about our energy flow and if we have blocks, our survival brain is really trying to help us. These patterns we have. I do a lot of, um, integration by parts, work with parts therapy. We talk about younger selves a lot. Whatever’s blocking us is really doing it because it thinks it’s gonna help us.
[00:44:25] It’s gonna protect us from something that’s scary. And maybe we learned that, like we had a lot of exuberance when we were little and someone was like, whoa, that’s too much. Or they were like, how I’m, maybe mom was so tired seeing the kid with a lot of energy. It was like, , you know, like where, where are you getting this energy from?
[00:44:45] Like, they felt jealous or maybe your parent felt jealous, whatever it was. There’s, we could have been judged very harshly for having energy. Mm-hmm. . And we, you know, that’s one of the blocks that can come up. And then also, like, when we have a lot of energy, people expect a lot out of us sometimes. So it, you know, it’s like, oh, if I show I have energy to do this, they’re gonna want me to do it all the time forever.
[00:45:07] So if I don’t, you know, like maybe I shouldn’t feel too much energy. It’s a protective, um, I, I would often get sick when I visited home because I didn’t have good boundaries. Um, and they would want me to do all this work, this labor. And I didn’t know how to say no. And as I got to learn how to say no better, there was some conflict cuz my parents really liked me doing all this, this work, but I didn’t have to get sick as a way to get a away from it, if that makes sense.
[00:45:34] Like, my body would go, the only way to protect you is to get you ill, I’m gonna get you ill, I’m gonna make sure that you can’t do this. Yes. Yeah. So, um, I just, I, you know, just talking about the easy flow and getting, you know, we can build habits, but also getting some movement, feeling the energy flow when it’s stagnant and kind of stuck in our body, it doesn’t feel good.
[00:45:55] I think we get aches and pains and then we don’t wanna move because it hurts. But sometimes when, like, my knee has been stiff cuz I hurt it a while ago and now the pain is gone, but I’m still stiff if I sit for a while and I, so I’m like, oh, that’s gonna be stiff. I don’t want to face it, but I know if I get up and move, it’s actually gonna get better.
[00:46:13] So wisdom is knowing the difference between it’s hurt and you need to rest it. And it’s no longer hurt, it’s just stiff and we’ve gotta work through it. But if you’re not experiencing the kind of energy you want, it could be that you just need to get it jumpstarted a little bit and maybe finding a moment of flow can, can help you with that.
[00:46:34] Um, we’re gonna take a break here. In a moment, I’d like to do a tapping. Um,
[00:46:46] it feels like that that core reminder to myself that like the cheetah, like my own heart rate, which, you know, varies from, from 58 beats per minute to 184 beats per minute, depending on what I’m doing. I’m not designed, you’re not designed to operate at a, a boosted steady state. And so I’m, I wa I use tapping to remind myself that it’s really human and natural to have energy that, that that goes up and then is naturally comes down and, and rises and, and, and that that’s not a defect.
[00:47:34] So,
[00:47:38] You can try this out. This is one of the, my little tricks with tapping is I’ll say something out loud, especially if I’m tuned to it like it’s a defect that I can’t always have the energy that I, I want to have. It’s a defect. It’s a defect. And see how it feels. Yeah. And feel how true it is. So if it feels like 10, oh yeah, that’s a defect.
[00:48:04] I gotta fix this. Yeah. Um, that would be a, a clue. And, uh, when I work with people that have a real lethargy problem or depression problem, often that’s at a 10. The problem is, is that that’s inhuman to always have the energy that you want to have, to do everything that you want to do. Um, that’s not human, uh, that’s not even a machine.
[00:48:31] Um, , there’s very few machines that operate at that utilization rate. Um, even though a part of me might believe, even though a part of me might believe that I should always have all the energy I need, that I should always have all the energy I need and all the energy I want, and all the energy I want and do, uh, and I’ve judged myself when I haven’t had the energy and I have judged myself when I haven’t had the energy.
[00:49:03] What, it’s not a de what if it’s not a defect? What if it’s not a defect up of the head? What if it’s not a defect? What if it’s not a defect eyebrow? A cheetah doesn’t run for at 70 miles an hour. A cheetah doesn’t run at 70 miles per hour for a 50 minute session. For for a 50 minute session side of the eye.
[00:49:28] They go in short bursts. They go in short bursts.
[00:49:35] And I’m not a cheetah. I’m not a cheetah. I’m the nose and I am an animal. And I am an animal. Jen. I am part of the natural world. I am part of the natural world. I sometimes forget, I sometimes forget other. I want to boost my energy toward calm. I want to boost my energy towards calm, under the arm. I love being able to boost my confidence.
[00:50:06] I love being able to boost my confidence top of the head. A little eagerness can go a long way. , a little eager, eagerness can make it go a long way. Well, I don’t have to stay there. I don’t have to stay there. Eyebrow, oh, I have so many different colors and tones. I have so many different colors and tones under the eye.
[00:50:31] I’m in the process of accepting me. I am in the process of accepting me under the eye and having more savvy with my energy, having more savvy with my energy under those where I can move it. Where I can move it, Jen, how I can move it, how I can move it, how alone. How I can feel my stillness, how I can feel my stillness, and my rhythms.
[00:50:58] And my rhythms. What if I’m not defective at all? What if I’m not defective at all? Huh?
[00:51:10] I mean, I like that because I think that we are, our society is very, very driven on that, and so like, We should have ener, like all the ads on Facebook and, and on TV is like, get your energy back. Get you, there’s something wrong with you. You have to take this pill or do this activity or whatever to get to the place where you were, you know, like have the energy of a 21 year old on caffeine and it’s like, hmm, what if I’m great just where I am.
[00:51:38] I can be smarter and, uh, steady about things rather than trying to adrenaline myself through everything. Yeah, no, everyone’s body is different. Um, there was a, a person on the elliptical trainer when I showed up at the gym the other day, um, they had been going for an hour and 27 minutes at a pace that would be my peak pace.
[00:52:03] And they were just, their energy was like, I’m in it. And when they stopped, they got off. And they did the ritual, they wiped down the machine. You could tell that they were like bringing themselves to completion. Now, my body does not like that kind of exercise, but there’s does, and I think that when you notice, um, energy boost, um, our, our, uh, dear friend Eve, it’s her birthday today.
[00:52:38] Happy Birthday Eve. Um, she was, she spends time with Aira and, and she said something that, um, you know, she used to drive herself. Like that sense of not being enough is a, is a kind of artificial driver. Um, it’s, it’s not natural. I don’t think that, um, that’s a natural impulse. It’s, it’s domesticated. Um, , and yet we have it as a culture.
[00:53:07] Uh, so many of us have that feeling and, and it acts as a driver. Um, but she said once, once she realized that, um, she didn’t, she could just be in growth and engagement, that she could be expressing her art and then get that impulse to move her energy to like rest or to music or to nature or, and when she reestablished that natural rhythm, just a little increment, she started to notice something about her chi, her energy field, that, um, she would already start feeling more vitality as she was heading into rest.
[00:54:01] That the, she would, would, would, there was this, there’s a, she’s a sensitive person and she could feel her body boosting its energy, even though on the outside what she’s doing is becoming less active mentally becoming less active, going to more of a still point. A still place. And um, that’s was my experience too, that there’s a difference between what we’ve tended to think of as a boost of energy, red Bull, um, and actual chi life force being boosted and boosted to give.
[00:54:53] All the things that life Force is meant to do. Um, re repair new cells, um, strengthening, um, creativity, all the good stuff. And so, um, as we go out for our seven minute break, to move our bodies, if that’s what you want to do, our minds or whatever, um, I’m inviting you to consider again, what is it that you want to experience more of emotionally in as a state of being an energy state of being.
[00:55:26] And um, as we’ve talked about this, is there anything that comes up to you as a block or a significant resistance to you actually actively boosting your energy toward that? Okay. We’d love to know. Yeah, yeah. So I’m gonna pause the recording and if you’re on the, uh, recording, hi, thank you for joining us.
[00:55:52] Um, and we invite you to take a seven minute break here too. We’ll be back. See you soon.
[00:56:00] Welcome back to Boost Your Energy. Um, we are bio electromagnetic energy. That’s the stuff that we’re made of. And there’s an intelligence there and there flows. And in anatomy school, they teach you things about limp and blood. Um, and if you go to a different school of thought, they’ll talk about meridians and chi and, um, vessels and all kinds of other things, um,
[00:56:33] to. To even acknowledge that we are energetic beings and that there are things that happen automatically. There are things that sometimes get out of balance, and it’s harder to be back in what you would call, um, natural homeostasis. Um, and it can feel someone shared that, you know, once I lie down, I may not feel like I can do anything.
[00:57:06] And that does feel like a defect. Um, the approach that we have at Thriving Now and, and, and the energy approach is if you’re sitting there, uh, if you’re lying down and you don’t have the energy to do, chances are that is like a bridge too far. But what if. And I don’t know that this is always true, but what if there’s a change in your state of being however subtle that would take energy from one place where maybe it’s causing distress, um, and allow it to flow into areas where it could build your resource, rebuild your resource.
[00:58:05] For example, if I’m lying down and I have things, a long list of things that I wanted to do that day, and I say, oh man, I can’t believe I’m not getting up and doing those things, I really need to get them done. Now, that’s a state of being, I call it, you know, fretting worrying, self-criticism. Uh, so I am in a state of being that has a particular energy to it.
[00:58:41] Now, I could go in the direction of compassion, right? Like, oh, well, you know, Rick, you were up all night with your daughter in the sleeping hours, right buddy? Hey buddy, give yourself a break. It could be, you know, I know myself, it’s time for a horizontal reset. I know myself. Like, that’s a certain kind of confidence.
[00:59:11] I know myself. It’s time for a horizontal reset. Can you feel that energetically, the state of being there is going to? Um, it’s, it’s a bit like changing the channel on your, on your, are you the playlist that you’re on? It changes our energy. Um, I do not, uh, I want to live in a world where more of us are supporting each other.
[00:59:39] Like, yeah. It, it, it sounds to me that, um, you know, your state of being doesn’t support doing a lot of work on your playlist, uh, on your to-do list right now. Um, what is your body calling for? What state of being would be, um, a reset for you or replenishing, lying down. Hmm. Yeah. Do you, do you feel like lying down on the sofa or lying down in bed would be better?
[01:00:05] Oh, and, and as you’re lying down, do you want to be like conscious and feeling your body, or do you want to be kind of in ocean ways? Do we wanna put on some music? To me, this doesn’t fall. It falls into self-care, but in the most kind of gross way. To me, this is self savvy. This is about, like, I have energy, it moves and sometimes it doesn’t.
[01:00:33] What do I do with it? And acceptance is another pathway that I think tapping helps build up. I and I deeply, even though I’m lying down and I can’t do shit, I deeply and completely accept myself, , ah, man, I did that for 20 minutes once , and then I laughed because I was actually doing something. I was tapping
[01:00:56] Um, and it was like, oh, okay. Um, I think there’s, go ahead. Um, I, I don’t wanna interrupt your flow. If you had something you wanted to share, Okay. Um, so like Rick has been dealing with having a two-year-old or a little baby, so he is very tired all the time. Sometimes we can get really stuck and, um, so he, he has like a, looking at his life from the outside, it’s very clear that the man needs to do ho horizontal reset sometime and take a nap.
[01:01:28] For some of us, it maybe that were kind of stuck emotionally or our body may be afraid of moving more if that’s something we want more physical energy. And one of the things that was really delightful for me when I hurt my knee, I was feeling very frustrated cuz I couldn’t work out or it was unable to do a lot of things.
[01:01:46] I, I usually did. And my chiropractor was just like, how about you stretch, lay in bed and you don’t have to put any pressure on your knee, but you can like stretch in bed, you can do leg lifts on your other, on both legs actually was fine for me, um, in bed. So if you always wanted, if you want to be in bed and that’s an easy place for you to be.
[01:02:06] Um, What could you, you know, like maybe you could let yourself feel safe in bed, but you could also get a little bit of motion going. Um, and I’ll, and again, if you’re always pushing yourself to do more, maybe you just need that horizontal reset, that chance to reset. And then maybe, um, you can come back and do a little more later if that’s right for you.
[01:02:28] But sometimes I’ve just been really stuck. And one of the things I think we tend to do as humans is if we’re not flowing our energy, if we feel stuck, we wanna avoid that feeling of being stuck. We wanna run away from it. And sometimes just being with that feeling can be very powerful. So if you’d like to try, is it okay if we just do a quick, um, if you think of one area in your life you feel really stuck, The, and most of us have, have something when we’re just not moving ahead with it.
[01:03:01] Think about how you feel when you’re trying to approach that. Notice what’s going on in your body. Does your body feel tight? Do you feel, you know, like, are you gritting your teeth? Are you, um, telling yourself certain thoughts or feeling certain sensations in your body? And if you’d like to just for, we’re just gonna do like, uh, 20, 30 seconds just with the support of the circle.
[01:03:25] Just step into that feeling of feel the suck for 20 seconds with me, if you’re willing, . So rather than avoiding it easy, the suck stuck. Yeah, the suck of stuck, right? So rather than avoiding it, running away, pretending, denying, just in a moment, for the moment, step into it and breathe and just feel the feeling of like, Ugh, this is not what I wanna feel.
[01:03:51] This is not what I wanna be doing.
[01:03:58] Just 10 more seconds. See if you can just be with it. See if you can tolerate that feeling. Breathe into it. All right. And then I can just step out, maybe shake out your hands if that feels good, or kind of brush it off. Um, and just notice how you feel. Sometimes me just stepping into it when I like, oh, I face that.
[01:04:22] I feel like a little lighter. Sometimes I’ll notice that there might be anger or sadness that I’m not wanting to feel underneath of that that’s stuck. Like if I, one of the reasons I have been somewhat resistant getting on the treadmill is I’m a very somatic person. When I start moving my body, I feel feelings that I may not want to feel anger, sadness might come up.
[01:04:44] So if I stay still, I don’t have to feel those feelings. And if I start moving, I would feel them again. But if I’m willing to be with that kind of sucky, stuck feeling, I’m like, oh yeah, that’s right. I can handle these feelings. Okay, I’ll get on the treadmill for a little while. So I just wanted to point out that, you know, sometimes like Rick is like, maybe I do need to reset.
[01:05:05] Maybe I need to rest a little before I have some energy to expend and. That’s clue. You know, if you know that’s not the case or you can just try it like, oh, could I do 10 leg lifts on both sides and then see if I want what I wanna do from there? Did it gimme more energy or less? Um, did feelings come up or not?
[01:05:24] And if I’m not, if I, if I intend to do the leg lifts and I’m just not doing them, can I be for 20 seconds with that? You know, stay with the suck feeling and just breathe through it and then see where I’m at. Can I do leg lifts now or is there, do I need to do some tapping in one of the circle calls with Rick or, uh, what’s coming up for me?
[01:05:43] Because we do plug or energy flow, if we think flowing with the energy will bring us feelings or experiences that we don’t know that we’re ready for. Um, and building up some skills and tolerance for that can be really useful. Mm-hmm. . And I’m reminded for me when I’m in that, that suck of stuck as you said.
[01:06:08] Um, There’s the sadness and sometimes unwinding of the, the could be regret or whatever, that it hasn’t happened yet or that you wish things were different. Um, and part of this workshop series is about returning to what matters to you. And maybe it isn’t the hard one that you’re working on. Maybe it’s one that you own a bit more.
[01:06:39] Like I’m, I’m naturally generous and appreciating and kind like those things are things that I own. Um, I’m not that all the time. There’s no pressure, but something I can tap into. Um, so
[01:07:01] that’s where if I can’t get to eager, I can feel the sadness. As Kathy just described, meditation all usually takes me into those things. Um, it’s a big part of my life. And then there’s the, um, well, maybe I, I can’t feel eager about this. What, what could I, like for me, appreciate, what could I appreciate?
[01:07:34] It’s not life or death.
[01:07:44] Yeah. I’ve got, I’ve got the freedom to not do it. . I’ve taken that freedom. Now sometimes the, the things that you come out that you’re, you’re appreciating or that you’re, um,
[01:08:03] You know that, I don’t think we’re gonna see that as a hallmark harm Hallmark card , you know? Um, and that’s, but for me, my emotional savvy is that I, I often need to acknowledge that the resistance is coming from a, a, a part of me that really wants me to be safe. Mm-hmm. that wants to, and for me, um, preserving my energy like eagerness is, um, it’s got chi to it, it’s an expression.
[01:08:41] It’s, it’s, you’re, ah, I’m about to light the match and then we’re gonna use the match. You know, you know, maybe it’ll blow out. But, um, it’s a way of, of acknowledging and, and helping that part of me, um, feel like its resistance has been acknowledged. And that’s not where I have to operate from. Most of the thriving emotions are not ones that are, uh, you know, primitive, brain driven.
[01:09:17] Um, overcoming all odds. That’s kind of a fight energy. Whereas the, the kind of wise fearlessness that, that some of you are wanting, that to me comes from a different, a different, um, energy mix. It’s a different genre of being alive. Um, that’s the way I experience it.
[01:09:43] Yeah. Um, I know that we didn’t get into a lot of tapping and, uh, working on blocks to energy per se. We talked a lot more about energy and kind of the flow and different ways to approach it. Um, next, our next call will be about removing blocks in general. clearing the blocks to being what matters. . Yeah.
[01:10:04] And I think that, that one of the big blocks to being what matters is finding the energy. Like a lot of, I often have, I really wanna do this, this, and that, and I don’t have the energy of, you know, there, I’m, I’ve run out of energy for that particular thing. So I invite you, if you’re watching this over the next couple weeks, notice where you have the desire to move forward and you still don’t like, like the, it feels like the gas isn’t connected.
[01:10:30] The gas pedal’s not connected to the engine, so to speak. Because there’s often, in that case, there’s a, a block to the energy flow. Like, and we’ve often learned those energy is so, um, connected to our subconscious. Like we, it often, like it’s the neuro pathways, the neuro, the nerves in our body that help in the cells of our body that create this energy.
[01:10:51] The mitochondrial d n a we have, it’s like, um, All of that is, I think Bel, I, I think it’s very strongly affected by what subconscious beliefs we have, what fears our survival brain has. Um, so there’s a lot of, there can be a lot of blocks to that. And I’ve noticed, and I’m curious how many people have, if you wanna share in the chat, have you noticed you have tons of energy for one thing and then someone asks you to do this one thing and you just feel the energy drain out of your body?
[01:11:19] Um, so that’s a time as I see some people saying Yes. Um, and it’s like, wait, what happened? I, and to me it’s like, okay, is there a boundary I need to set? Like, hey, Mom, I love you, but I don’t want to do that thing. I can, you know, like, or is it, I would really love to do that thing, but there’s something in me that thinks it’s not safe, I don’t deserve it.
[01:11:42] Or what, you know, what is going on that the, that someone pulled the plug on like drain my gas tank immediately and then I can go back to the first thing I was doing and I’ve got my energy goes right back up. Yeah. Or it might be a slow, like, it might be the residual drain from that thing where just like the gas pedal, the gas pedal thought disconnected.
[01:12:03] So I invite you, like we’ve talked a lot about energy and different types of energy and most people that talk about energy are not gonna talk about it from this perspective. This is kind of a pragmatic, we’re somewhere between the woowoo, we’re talking some WOOWOO stuff, but we’re also very practical . So like we’re somewhere in this middle range.
[01:12:22] And the more data, data you can gather over the next couple weeks over where you are. What you, what you notice, and I invite your brain to kind of draw this to your attention. I’m talking to your subconscious too. Can you notice when, oh, I have plenty of energy to watch TV or to like, shop or do something that’s quote unquote fun or sometimes bad.
[01:12:46] Like, like, oh, I shouldn’t do this. So it’s really fun to do it. Um, and when is it like, oh, this feels really, really heavy and I noticed myself, um, when I feel really stuck sometimes when I, I’m think about something too much. It’s really, really heavy to do it versus other times I forget about it and I just get it done and it’s no energy at all.
[01:13:08] So like, our thoughts and our beliefs can really get in the way of this. So I invite you to like, take some data. Like I, I’m a big fan of Post-It notes and I’ll just grab a few and I’ll just write, oh, Monday at, you know, 8:00 AM really wanted that coffee, but I really wanted to sleep a few more minutes.
[01:13:26] And you know, I convinced myself that if I didn’t get that sleep, I was gonna be grumpy all day. Whatever. Like just notice where your energy, which was maybe okay, and then you think about something and it goes down, or there’s a certain task and your energy goes down. Gathering that data and being conscious of it as we go through clearing the blocks will really help you target in, because one of the tricks our subconscious does is it blocks it, it hides it from us.
[01:13:55] If we’re not consciously aware of it, it’s a lot harder for us to work on it. It’s a lot harder for us to tackle it. So if we can kind of keep it hazy and unaware, there’s a, there’s a barrier of protection around the thing that we want to most want to clear. So the more you can get a little data gathered, the more we’ll be able to target in and clear some of this for you.
[01:14:16] Hmm. Thank you Kathy. Yeah. Um, someone wrote, I appreciate, I am not alone in this moment right now with the circle and that’s why we come together. Um, I do believe that this work is better together. I appreciate all of you for showing up and putting some of your life and lifetime and life energy into co-creating this with us.
[01:14:40] Um, our inbox is open, especially to help us tune to what’s coming up for you as we head into this month of this next month of, um, of workshops. Uh, we’re clearing blocks. Uh, it’s a very important part of it and,
[01:15:05] Hmm,
[01:15:09] I’ve.
[01:15:13] I’d love to say that it’s easy, but we’ve all know that it’s, it’s not as, there’s nuances and challenges and subconscious and other things. I will say that though, that as you get the data that matters to you and to your nervous system and to your way of being and you expand what you look at, rather than, um, you know, the judgment and thought field, like I used to spend so much time just thinking about something and I really didn’t have a connection between my thoughts and my body as Kathy just had us be with a feeling.
[01:15:54] The emotions like where you feel it in your body, um, that shifts things and it’s not complicated. As you, as you, as you figure out the, the skill as it works for you. Then you can be eager, but you’ll know that you’re not gonna go from overwhelmed directly to eager . You’re gonna go here and then here and here and here and here.
[01:16:22] Uh, cuz your pathway, that is a delight for you. That a all along that way, like if I go from overwhelmed to calm and grounded, that’s something that matters to me. And it’s a skill I practice. If I, if I go from a bit more grounded to, well, what could I be grateful for? Oh, well that and, and I activate my appreciator and then I’m like, well, well, what matters to me here?
[01:16:53] Okay. Yeah, it really does. This does matter to me. It matters to how I want to be in community and. And finding postures, um, postures, movements, getting, making your body part of the instrument of who you are. Mm-hmm. . Um, I didn’t used to put my hand on my heart nearly as much as I do, but I find that this, and also just like starting to tap my collarbone, these are, these are signals to my body of a state of being.
[01:17:32] It boosts the energy toward something, a state of being that matters to me. Calm and confident. Um, I don’t have to think about if I start getting anxious about something. You, everyone who’s close to me knows that I start typing my collarbone points often. That’s enough. I don’t have to process it and talk about it.
[01:17:53] Yeah. Um, I know that if something’s running around in my head that’s sharing it out loud. Even if I’m the only one on the trail, I share it out loud that working the energy of my throat and my throat chakra and my heart and my truth, um, that’s enough. Um, and every, every one of these little incremental skills makes, they certainly make me feel like this energy of who I am as a human being and how I operate in the world.
[01:18:28] That, um, I am the co-creator with my body. Mm-hmm. , it has sometimes a mind of its own. Um, and, but I’m a co-creator. There’s a relationship. I’m, I’m, I’m in relationship with you all. I’m re in relationship with the, the trails that I walk. I’m in relationship with the energies of my world, both ones that I craft and ones that are.
[01:18:56] Are part of it. And that kind of empowered, thriving, practical and embracing what we’ve come to understand and we understand about the energy of who we are, embodi minded spirit and the world that we live in with its realities and unwanted realities and, um, how we be with that. That to me, is a, a profound work that impacts everyone that you love.
[01:19:27] Every little increment that you change impacts the people, whether they realize it or not. Their default mode starts shifting when someone in their world becomes more calm and confident, especially in situations where they maybe weren’t as calm and confident before. And it’s really cool to notice. How you’re influencing people, whether they realize it or not, um, in, in how you tune yourself and the rituals and other greetings and other things that you start doing.
[01:20:03] I love that. Okay. Well, just as we’re leaving, I had asked you, we asked you to kind of tune into some of the things that are blocking you and someone said, I barely have energy for washing up or cleaning the floors, and just reminding me that sometimes. We have thoughts or beliefs that are just below the sub, the subconscious level and they can really affect us.
[01:20:23] Um, we may not be noticing them cuz we’re kind of like that fish and water. We’ve heard it so much that it’s just always there. But it can also, our subconscious can be ping us where we have a flavor of an energy, but we don’t realize what’s going on. So if you can just start asking yourself, if I could hear myself speaking to myself, what might I hear?
[01:20:43] And maybe the washing up is like, look what a mess you made. Oh my God, I’m gonna have to clean up this big mess. Or like, why did you, you know why I have to do this every day? This is like, there might be beliefs there that are hidden. So I, I just wanted to invite you, invite yourself to say, if I could hear this, if I could hear or notice what was going on that’s making me feel solo energy, what might it be?
[01:21:06] Because we wanna root out those subconscious blocks and like Rick said, let us be our ins our body, be an instrument for getting these things that matter accomplished and created and experienced in this world. So I just, I really, you know, if you can invite your subconscious to let you know and just write them down cuz again, it will disappear.
[01:21:25] And if you can bring them, we would love to work with you next time on clearing those blocks so you can really create what matters. Thank you all. Take care. Have a great night. Thank you. Bye bye.
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We covered…
- In order to have a different emotional experience (one that matters to you) benefits from boosting your energy.
- Authentic Energy Boosts are from what matters. It feels like your life force has been revitalized (even when you are moving towards calm, rest, renewal, or a horizontal reset nap).
- Adrenaline, Forcing, Willpower, Fight, Flee, Freeze, Overwhelm, Anxiety, Fear – these are energies sourced from the primitive brain. The good news is that such energy can be intentionally “moved” from one part of our body-mind energy system to another, where it boosts us into a more thriving state of being.
- When looking at energy, consider physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual aspects.
- Feel for stuckness, heaviness, cravings, askings.
- Energy follows intention. It’s okay to expect this to be work!
- Savvy work leads to a vibration of fulfillment. Peace combined with power.
- The Suck of Stuck tapping and being with the feelings.
- Move your energy and your posture and attitude will be boosted, too.
- Yes, there are going to be resistances and blocks. We will go into that in our next workshop in more depth. In the meantime, as you intend to boost your energy – to Be What Matters to you – notice what comes up physically, emotionally, and beliefs/fears. Let us know and we’ll tap on those together next session.
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Manage your energy wisely and boost your emotional focus through self-care techniques, setting boundaries, and identifying and clearing blocks using EFT Tapping to avoid burnout and increase productivity.
- 00:00 Learn to manage your energy wisely to avoid burnout and prioritize self-care, so you can have meaningful experiences.
- Learn skills and attitudes to be savvy with your physical, emotional, and mental energy in order to have experiences that matter to you.
- Avoid relying on adrenaline and social pressure to push yourself to work hard, as it can lead to burnout and neglecting self-care.
- It’s important to acknowledge the need for rest and self-care in order to have the energy and focus to put out effort when needed.
- Rest and recovery are essential for physical vitality, as exemplified by the cheetah’s short bursts of energy and subsequent need to unwind and replenish.
- Boosting energy during a night workshop is important for staying present, but instead of relying on caffeine, focus on redirecting energy from the head to the core.
- Tune into authentic energy by noticing resistance and embracing the natural.
- 08:34 Boost your energy and feel more alive by inviting it to move to certain areas, releasing old negative energy, and becoming aware of your background thoughts.
- Energy can be restorative, activating, and flowing towards what you want to do, and by inviting it to move to a certain area, you can boost your ability and feel more alive.
- Invite energy from your surroundings and balance it throughout your body by noticing any areas that feel tense or constrained and imagining your feet opening up to receive energy from the earth.
- Release old negative energy and invite in fresh, clear energy to feel more grounded and filled-up with good stuff.
- Creating a habit of checking in on background thoughts can leave you feeling more balanced throughout the day and boost your energy towards a state that matters to you.
- Becoming aware of one’s energy and using techniques such as tapping and Chinese medicine can help boost energy levels and restore balance.
- Choosing to be calm and confident is a powerful and sustaining energy that can help us focus and tune into what we need to, even in times of emergency.
- 18:02 Take breaks, engage in activities like art or martial arts, and create rituals to sustain energy and achieve a state of calm confidence for increased productivity and mental clarity.
- Allow yourself to have downtime and absorb energy from your environment, while also planning for recovery and maintaining a gentle fluctuation around a calm and confident baseline.
- Being in a state of calm confidence helps to accomplish more with less wear and tear on the system, and engaging in activities such as art or going for a walk can boost energy towards achieving that state.
- Creating rituals can help us drop into work faster and recharge, while also understanding the impact of our primitive brain on our ability to focus.
- Boosting energy in a different way can help change default mode patterns and create new rituals to activate eagerness and increase productivity.
- Activating the energy around what matters can boost mental clarity and bring focus to the heart, reducing overwhelm and creating clearer vision.
- Having a little spark and eagerness in life makes it feel more alive and meaningful, rather than just going through the motions of hard labor.
- 30:28 Changing our default mode of physical inactivity in small steps can become a habit with consistent effort, linking habits together can help build good habits, and taking baby steps can overcome resistance to starting a task.
- Changing our default mode of physical inactivity to taking small steps requires emotional and mental energy, but with consistent effort, it becomes a habit and requires less willpower.
- Linking habits together can help us build good habits that sustain us in life, such as associating walking through the door with getting on the treadmill.
- Reflects on the resistance you may have to difficult tasks. It’s okay to wonder if it will get easier over time.
- Overcoming resistance to starting a task can be achieved by taking baby steps and allowing the survival brain to notice that the task is not as difficult as it initially perceived.
- Overcoming the fear of starting a new exercise routine and focusing on the benefits can help in achieving fitness goals.
- Taking a horizontal reset by lying down and tuning into the body can provide a chance to regulate and change one’s state of being.
- 38:50 Setting boundaries and learning to say no is crucial for avoiding burnout and protecting your physical and mental health.
- Having a list of reasons why something is important to you can help boost your energy and motivation to be consistent, as seen in the example of a daily morning walk.
- Experiencing nature in adverse weather conditions can be fulfilling and identifying moments of flow can help with productivity.
- Practicing kindness towards oneself is important for maintaining good mental health.
- Our survival brain creates patterns and blocks to protect us from perceived threats, often stemming from past experiences and judgments, which can affect our energy flow and behavior.
- Learning to say no and setting boundaries is important for avoiding burnout and protecting your physical and mental health.
- It’s natural to have fluctuating energy levels and it’s not a defect to not always have the energy you want. Tapping can be used to remind yourself of this.
- Cheetahs don’t run at a constant speed of 70 miles per hour, but rather in short bursts.
- 49:39 Embrace your natural energy levels and boost your energy with self-care techniques.
- Boost your energy towards calm and confidence, accept yourself and be savvy with your energy to move towards your goals.
- We should embrace our own natural energy levels and not feel pressured to constantly strive for high levels of productivity and energy.
- The sense of not being enough is an artificial driver and by establishing a natural rhythm of growth, engagement, rest, music, and nature, we can notice a boost in our energy field and vitality.
- Boost your energy by identifying emotional states and overcoming any blocks or resistance during the seven-minute break.
- We are energetic beings with flows and intelligence, and acknowledging this can help us restore balance and build resources.
- Recognize and accept one’s state of being and use self-care techniques such as a horizontal reset to replenish energy and support productivity.
- 01:00:48 Take a nap or do gentle stretches to reset your energy state and avoid pushing yourself too hard when feeling stuck emotionally or physically.
- Sometimes we get stuck emotionally or physically and need a horizontal reset, like taking a nap or doing gentle stretches in bed, to regain energy and avoid pushing ourselves too hard.
- Face and embrace the feeling of being stuck instead of avoiding it, by stepping into it and breathing for a few seconds.
- Sometimes we avoid physical activity because it brings up uncomfortable emotions, but if we are willing to face those feelings, we can handle them and potentially gain more energy.
- Return over and over to what matters to you, acknowledge resistance, and then boost energy using Tapping towards emotions and energy pathways that are not primitive brain driven.
- Energy flow is important to notice. Subconscious beliefs and fears can create blocks to it, leading to a lack of energy for certain tasks.
- Setting boundaries is important when dealing with situations where you may feel uncomfortable or unsafe.
- 01:11:43 Notice your energy levels and connect your thoughts and emotions with your body sensations to identify and clear blocks, leading to increased action and empowerment.
- Energy affects our productivity. Sudden drains can occur and that most discussions of “energy” are not grounded in the practical.
- Gather data on your energy levels and notice when certain tasks feel heavy or easy to do to identify how your thoughts and beliefs affect your productivity.
- Gathering conscious awareness of your energy flows and blockages helps to target and clear blocks, making it easier to tackle and work on them.
- Learning to connect our thoughts and emotions with our body sensations is a skill that takes practice and can help shift us from overwhelm to calm and grounded.
- Using physical signals like placing a hand on the heart or tapping the collarbone can boost energy towards the state of being that matters to us, such as calm confidence.
- Being aware of and addressing subconscious beliefs and blocks can help us become more empowered and influential in our relationships and daily lives.
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In the workshop I spoke that Eager for me is activation energy. It is when I boost my energy into the “I can be eager about this” channel and woosh! The match is lit, and I can now Engage and Do Work That Matters.
We don’t expect a match to “light itself.” Indeed, if they spontaneous combust it is SCARY!
Our emotional states that are activating, enlivening, and moving with power are not going to typically happen by default, either.
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Indeed!
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Yet another very relatable workshop!
My intention for what matters to me has been to feel energetic. So the title of this workshop is so attracting.
Since quite some time i have been in ‘off energetic’ place. Everything being done on autopilot mode. My self image analogy was a pile of sand…land whose moisture was all sucked off or that of a sugarcane whose juice totally extracted. But then this wasn’t 100% true because i was doing my chores. So then what’s missing…its some kind of ‘enthusiasm’ i had lost it all (and still not got a hang of it) but as you have so well explained i need to find a way to ‘ignite’ it…find my ‘whys’ for it.
watching n listening to the workshop i realized having spent a lot many past years mostly since 2018 until now on energy boost by serious urgent medical calls of parent n parents in law only…so it was all the stress hormones making me move…no wonder i feel drained.
I’ll listen to workshop again. somewhere around at 42:50 minutes you spoke about having enough ‘whys’ and then there’s no reason to delay to procrastinate. That’s what i m going to be doing. This collection of ‘whys’ will help get to the spark.
around 46:40 you speak about stagnant energy turning into pains and aches and this might be true for me. A lot of movement of energy i need happen. The left side of my body specially shoulder, shoulder blade, lower back left side corner almost consistently stay painful.
i want to tangibly experience the life force energy that you talk about.
When i had set intention ‘to feel energetic’ it meant mix of both types of energy you describe n discuss in the workshop the instant red bull, to move on with doing of ‘responsibilities’ and deep within i also wished to experience the life giving energy because of which i can find and then follow my ‘whys’ to any goal/intention i set though i couldn’t understand/see them separately then but after workshop i think i can, at least to some degree.
You spoke about connection between thoughts n body is feeling. So make bridge of feelings from here to here to here…i have heard Abraham Hicks say similar…and this has been difficult for me. i m so full of ‘blockages’ that setting proper intention and pathways to it is confusing…but ill be able to, soon…by following workshop, by tapping and by following meditation…just found MBSR Course via Coursera just 4 days back. Hoping to get a lot from learning/doing it in terms of feelings.
Work in progress!!
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Yes, a work in progress.
There is a lot to managing our energy. It isn’t trivial. 
Next session is on clearing blocks. I have a block called “have to” – if it feels like I “have to” I… can’t or it’s really draining.
Blocks can be there for a reason, like the blocks that hold up a house. For me in this case, if I am responding to an urgent need, there will be a moment where I “won’t.” Because I feel I have to.
To boost my energy, “all” that is required is to make it a choose to. “This is my YES, because this person matters to me.”
Boosts my energy without needing it to be all about survival or obligation.
Hope this serve you, too.
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Yes! Your words are giving me fresh view to look at it all. I think i want make list of ‘My Yes’ and that’ll shift a lot within me.
Thank you so much…found direction.
God bless you!
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